I Hate Me

hi everyone im new here iv had tinnitus for 7 months, in both ears for 7 months from tmj im really struggling to live my life its so loud I can hear it over the tv.

I have 2 kids 3,7 and they prob hate me right now tinnitus has changed my life I cant evan sit down and read with my daughter, when they go bed at 7 I just sit and cry.

I used to love sleep always in bed at 10 but now its my worse nightmare.

so how does everyone relax?

im also looking for other mummys out there in uk I don't no anyone else with this so I would like a friend with tinnitus.

 

anybody out there.

 

Hi @no life
I am relatively new to T, so can't advise you too much, but know exactly how you feel. There are many wise experienced people on here who will be in touch and definitely will help. In the meantime check out the success stories, they certainly helped me, also https://www.tinnitustalk.com/threads/back-to-silence.7172
Regards Phil

 

thanks phil-o will look thought now

 

Hi @no life
No problem. It's hard to imagine it gets better, but reading the success stories proves it does. Although I'm not there yet. There are some terrific people on here who have had T for many many years and give their time and advice to help us new comers. Best wishes Phil
This lady has T and a young family to manage, but I think she is in the US.
https://www.tinnitustalk.com/threads/a-few-good-days.12159/#post-149306

 

hi Karen
im trying to stay positive I really hate the mornings seems to be louder then, so that just puts me in a bad mood, and knowing ill have this forever makes me sooooo depressed.

I do wear a night gard on my lower teeth but other than that I just have to take pain killers when my jaw hurt, and it hurts really bad,

I don't no how to keep myself busy everyday the cleaning is always done washing always done so how do you keep busy when theres nothing to do lol thanks for replying

 

Omg sometimes I just hate myself with this heartbeat sound throbbing in my ear. It started August 2015. I have not been diagnosed. I sympathise with you

 

Hello @no life,
Welcome to the forum. I signed up only a week ago but I have been dealing with hearing loss and constant tinnitus for over two years. The noise is always there but I now have days when I am able to mostly ignore it .In the beginning, every day was overwhelming and I was so afraid.
It used to be such a struggle to read aloud to my young grandchildren because I cringed at the sound of my own voice but I kept reading anyway. Have you read The Book with No Pictures? My 5 year old granddaughter loves that one! I still hear noise with every syllable I speak but I expect it now and I don't pay much attention to it. It is like people who live next to railroad tracks....they expect the noise and their brains decide to ignore the noise. It just takes time.

 

Hi ! You poor thing. I cried for a week solid when the T came on and didn't go away. One thing that did help me sleep was a white noise app on my phone. I found one that mimicked the frequency of my tinnitus. The app is called "white noise" by tmsoft and the best frequency sound on it for me was pink noise. I also liked the clickety clack of the train track one.

 

Try these for situations where there's a lot of background noise: Alpine Hearing Protection Musicsafe Classic Earplugs. You can get them for less than $15 at Amazon. I always wear them when I go to football games or other events, vacuum the carpet, load the dishwasher, etc.

The other thing is to keep active. As a young Mom, there are always a million-and-one household tasks that need to be done, so just keep chugging away! And make sure you do something just for you every once in a while. If you like to get your nails done, do it. If you like to read a spicy novel, take the time out of your hectic day to read a chapter or two! If you like music, don't be afraid to listen...

I've had T for over 40 years, it's a pain in the butt, but it doesn't have to ruin your life. You will acclimate and you will learn to cope. I hope your friends and family bring you much joy and help you to remember how amazing it is to be alive!