Back to Silence

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by I who love music, Dec 7, 2014.

    1. Jazzer

      Jazzer Member Benefactor Hall of Fame

      Location:
      UK
      Tinnitus Since:
      1/1995
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Noise
      Thanks for that Henry.
      My wife was a clinical hypnotherapist trained in the Ericksonian method, at Kings College London.
      One of her course books was:
      “Answer Cancer,” by the brilliant therapist Stephen Parkhill, who died quite young 61, just last year.
      My misus, Sylvie, gave me a treatment when I was at my worst. Suicidal.
      It was off the top of her head, unscripted and I’m going to tell you, it is just perfection.
      She recorded the session live, and it is a gem.
      It last for 23 minutes.
      I would not part with it for a million pounds.
      If I wake early, I play my tape, and maybe get another two hours sleep.
      I adore this wonderful angel I am married to, and sometimes I choose to hear the tape right through, it is so lovely, and sometimes I allow it to send me back to sleep.
      Either way, it works it’s magic.

      (Let’s face it - not everybody gets to sleep with their therapist ! Hahaha.....excuse my jest Henry.)
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      I who love music
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      I who love music Member

      Location:
      Michigan
      Tinnitus Since:
      mid seventies
      Hello everyone,
      Terry here, also known as "I who love music." In fact, I love music so much that I'm making a musical instrument called a hurdy gurdy. The instrument itself is loud and making it has been a noisy affair, using all my power tools I have at hand. A few years ago I wouldn't have attempted this because of my tinnitus. The Back To Silence method has let me manage my tinnitus and with this new awareness, I've learned to prevent spikes. There's an array of noisy tools behind me in the photo, I've learned to wear ear protection when using the noisiest ones.

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      In the past four years I've met many people online who've had success with the Back To Silence method. I've also talked with many who've had limited success while admitting they didn't do the method 100 percent. And I've talked with some people who have many questions and doubts about the method and don't try it at all.
      In real life (offline) I've met some folks who've had great success, too. All this makes me very happy. I remember when I was a nervous wreck and my tinnitus was out of control until I learned about this method and tried it, with great success.
      If having tinnitus weren't bad enough, about a year ago I got a rare form of cancer. I'm okay now and I'm glad to be back in the garage banging around. But in all those weeks in the hospital bed, I didn't have to respond to my tinnitus ONCE. You know what it's like in the hospital, very quiet, but T was not there.
      I have tinnitus and if I think about it I hear it. I'll break "Step One" and tell you it's loud. Thank goodness for this method though. If you're new to these posts or are an old acquaintance, please don't give up.
      Remember the method,

      1- STOP talking about T, measuring it, comparing it, describing it, and thinking about it.
      2- when it's bothersome, tell yourself, "I hear it, I feel .........." (insert your true emotion)
      3- make a note of this and each response on paper, review you paper weekly to see the change in your responses.

      Hang in there. Like anything else worthwhile, it takes time. Re-train your brain to deal with T in this new way. I'm not a doctor, or nurse, or specialist. I don't know exactly why it works. I'm just an old retired noise maker.

      See ya,
      Terry
       
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    3. Jonstorm

      Jonstorm Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      July 2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      ?anxiety ?dental work
      @I who love music
      I'm 3 weeks into my T and I'm sure this method has led me to improvement so thank you for sharing it.
      I have had a very up and down course however. Mainly as at night I wake in a state of high anxiety sometimes after even just 20 minutes of sleep. I only get a few hours total which has such a psychological toll it seems to undo the mood boost I get using the method which initially after only a couple days I found very positive.
      I guess this may be expected as I'm of a relatively recent onset as opposed to yourself as a relative veteran when you used this method.
      Glad you are doing well
      John
       
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    4. Jonstorm

      Jonstorm Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      July 2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      ?anxiety ?dental work
      My other query is what you think of combining meditation practices with BTS? I've found meditation can help calm my anxiety about hearing the sound.. but allowing myself to hear it seems a little outside of the method. I have noted some success stories from people that have combined both however.
       
    5. Henry Orlando FL
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      Henry Orlando FL Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Orlando, FL
      Tinnitus Since:
      10/2011
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Loud sound via earbuds from a digital device.
      Goodness me Terry! Weeks in the hospital sounds like it was a tough journey to me. Glad you pulled through. You have made a big difference in the world and we need you to keep making a contribution. You certainly have helped me.
       
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    6. Henry Orlando FL
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      Henry Orlando FL Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Orlando, FL
      Tinnitus Since:
      10/2011
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Loud sound via earbuds from a digital device.
      When T first arrived for me I was in a dark place. Indeed I had the same issue of not being able to sleep. Even suicidal and certainly desperate. One of the things that helped pull me through was I found a general practice medical doctor who prescribed Trazadone 100mg at bedtime. The ENT doctor's advice was extremely poor by just saying "learn to live with it" with nothing else other than I had no hearing damage from the noise incident. Since then I have read that "learn to live with it" statement is not uncommon with most doctors since they are ignorant on how to guide patients with T. I trust that has changed since 2011 somewhat. The second MD was my general practitioner and he just said he did not know what to do with no referral. Now the third MD was younger and prescribed the 100 mg of Trazadone... 1 or 2 capsules at bedtime. That worked great and made a huge difference. You can look Trazadone up online of course. Now, what I have learned subsequently in my readings over the years is when you go to the doctor they can't prescribe medications for T. They can prescribe medications for the symptoms one has as a result of T. Also you are speaking their language when you talk about the symptoms as they know what to do to treat symptoms. Thus if I were in your shoes now I would go to my doctor and say I was having insomnia, depression, and anxiety in the last few weeks and these symptoms are dragging you down. It is fine to tell the doctor you think the reason for these feeling are the T so you don't have to hide that just don't lead with that as the problem. Trazadone has been around since the early 1980s and is not known to be addictive and it is designed to treat depression, anxiety, and insomnia so it is a known quantity in the medical field and considered very safe. Alternatively, after a few months using Trazadone, I changed to L-Theanine which is an amino acid. Theanine is available in health food stores. It also has been around for decades, used worldwide and is generally regarded as safe by the USDA. You can look it up online as well. I took 100 to 300 mg at bedtime depending on how keyed up I was on any given night. I did that for a couple of years. I will say some experts advise taking Valium for the anxiety/sleep. That, of course, is addictive big time so I would avoid going that route unless necessary. In some cases, I am sure it is OK I would just say avoid going that way since these two other options I wrote about are available. Hope this helps.
       
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      I who love music
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      I who love music Member

      Location:
      Michigan
      Tinnitus Since:
      mid seventies
      Hi Jonstorm,
      If you're getting relief with a combination of methods that's sure a good thing.
      I used to do a meditation type thing. Then I did this, but never did them together.
       
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      I who love music
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      I who love music Member

      Location:
      Michigan
      Tinnitus Since:
      mid seventies
      Ya, medicine if you need it.
      The first thing I noticed even after only a few days of doing the BTS method was a happy mood returning. Man, it felt so good... and still does.
       
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    9. Floralportal

      Floralportal Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      05/1/18
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Seizure/loudmusic
      My tinnitus was so bad I would cry, want to stab my ear drums.. I started intuitively doing what you wrote, and one day, it "went away" and I stopped thinking about it, stopped checking.. 2 days ago I consumed some cannabis mid day which I usually only have right before bed. I then started "checking" and listening again. It's been bugging the crap out of me again. Not as bad, but still there. T is mind over matter. I was convinced before I came to this thread & now I'm even more certain. The power of belief is incredible. I feel I can work it away with my mind once again. Thanks for the hope
       
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    10. Phil-O

      Phil-O Member

      Location:
      Lancashire UK
      Tinnitus Since:
      02/2015
      @I who love music. Pleased you are feeling better. 2 years on and BTS still helping me. Thanks for sharing. " Don't let tinnitus drive your bus". Best wishes Phil
       
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    11. Huradozih
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      Huradozih Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      idiopathic
      Hi @I who love music, I’m wondering if this method is going to work for veeeeeeery low ( but intrusive to me :mad: ) tinnitus that I can hear only at night, thanks.
       
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      I who love music
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      I who love music Member

      Location:
      Michigan
      Tinnitus Since:
      mid seventies
      Why not?
       
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    13. Fanny

      Fanny Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      10/2017
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      jaw (SADAM)
      Hello Terry !

      First of all i would like to thank you, your story gives me hope and some relief, even if I have difficulties to make it work properly. In fact, I have a question for you.

      I know that we have to stop describing T, but mine are very changing and divers in tone. Some are jerky and other continual.

      So, do you think it is possible to succed with this method in this situation? I have the impression that most people have only one continual sond, this is why I am wondering about how we can do with various and changing sounds.

      Thank you for your time and sorry for my bad english.
       
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    14. Henry Orlando FL
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      Henry Orlando FL Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Orlando, FL
      Tinnitus Since:
      10/2011
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Loud sound via earbuds from a digital device.
      Hi Fanny, Mine are changing and diverse in tone and it worked for me. Just do it he says with a smile.
       
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    15. onjig

      onjig Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      long time
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      who knows
      well, I,ll have to reread the OP when I can spend more time ~ because I got no message from it ```

      Have a good day ```
       
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      I who love music
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      I who love music Member

      Location:
      Michigan
      Tinnitus Since:
      mid seventies
      Since there are no side effects using this method, it's worth a try.
       
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    17. Tony Phylactou

      Tony Phylactou Member

      Location:
      Limassol
      Tinnitus Since:
      Low 20 years high sept 2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Cement factory noise lowT,then stress high T
      It is not cheap
       
    18. Henry Orlando FL
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      Henry Orlando FL Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Orlando, FL
      Tinnitus Since:
      10/2011
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Loud sound via earbuds from a digital device.
      Yes, $197 for the program is an investment to be sure. At the time I would have paid much, much more for what it did for me I can tell you that! Also back in 2011 Back to Silence was not available and there were way, way fewer resources compared to today.



      Hope this helps,

      Henry
       
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    19. kmohoruk
      Nerdy

      kmohoruk Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      07/2005
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Loud Noise, Ear Infection, TMJ
      Hello Terry (@I who love music )!

      After dealing with a big spike recently due to a coworker sounding a small dinghy boat horn a couple feet from me. I was looking to try the Back To Silence method. Thank you very much for the video, I found it very informative!

      I was wondering, do you think it would make a difference if you counted your responses on something like an iPhone? It would be like a digital note pad.

      Or does the physical process of having to write it down a piece of paper make the Back to Silence method work better?

      Sort of like how they say that sometimes when studying for a test, by writing out notes it can help you remember them easier.

      Second quick question! Have you heard from anyone with more reactive tinnitus that the Back To Silence method has worked for them? :)

      Thanks again Terry for helping so many members of the site with your wonderful method!
       
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    20. Laurie1961
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      Laurie1961 Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      1921
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Please discontinue my censored account. Thank you.
      @ I who love music 1974 huh? Holy that was a long time for you.

      I don't know why I didn't see this post sooner. But very happy about it.

      While watching I tried step 1 & 2 and swear the volume of my tinnitus went down.

      Tomorrow and forward, steps 1-2 along with paper and pencil. Thank you!
       
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    21. Henry Orlando FL
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      Henry Orlando FL Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Orlando, FL
      Tinnitus Since:
      10/2011
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Loud sound via earbuds from a digital device.
      I studied all the Back to Silence string and made a ton of notes. Then I boiled it down so I knew I was following the plan as close to exactly as possible. It sure worked for me. I also have been giving this plan to a couple of friends with T and emailed to others with T. Here is the “bottom line” on how to implement it from my researching the Back To Silence String:

      The "Back to Silence" method calls for not measuring the sound(s), not to monitor the Tinnitus sound(s) or focus on it, don't describe the sound(s) or compare the sound(s).

      Another way to think about it is follow the four "don'ts" of the Back to Silence method:

      1 - Don't measure it
      2 - Don't monitor it
      3 - Don't describe it
      4 - Don't compare it

      Do the following:

      1- STOP talking about tinnitus, measuring it, comparing it, describing it, and thinking about it.
      2- When you hear the sound(s), tell yourself, "I hear it, I feel .........." (insert your true emotion)
      3- make a note of this incidence (just put a hash mark for instance and add them up daily) and each emotional response in a word or two on paper, review your paper weekly to see the change in your responses.

      If you are in a position (like say driving a car, in meditation, in bed getting to sleep or up in the night etc.) where you can’t note down your occurrence then do it verbally and add a hash mark and note later in writing if you can recall it.

      Once you have gotten to 5 to 10 times a day with noting the tinnitus occurrences you can stop writing them down if desired. Just do the “I hear it, I feel _______ (insert your true emotion) to yourself with no need to keep a count.

      Hope this helps.
       
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    22. Phil-O

      Phil-O Member

      Location:
      Lancashire UK
      Tinnitus Since:
      02/2015
      Great news @Henry Orlando FL As another former member of TT said "Don't let Tinnitus drive your bus". Kind Regards Phil
       
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      I who love music
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      I who love music Member

      Location:
      Michigan
      Tinnitus Since:
      mid seventies
      I think so. Never know til you try.
       
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      I who love music
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      I who love music Member

      Location:
      Michigan
      Tinnitus Since:
      mid seventies
      You know, I thought I was crazy because relief for me happened so fast. Good for you.
       
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      I who love music
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      I who love music Member

      Location:
      Michigan
      Tinnitus Since:
      mid seventies
      I like the way you laid it out. That's exactly how you do it.
       
    26. SusyS
      Fine

      SusyS Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      12/2017
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      acoustic trauma
      This is what I did, and this is why I am here again. 10 months after the onset, and full psychological habituation, at a stressful day, I thought going to a blues bar wouldn't hurt. I'm a classical music person, so I never go to clubs, parties -- so never considered protection as a regular thing. Only a little over an hour, and it did. Two weeks, and spike continues, and guilt hurts, perhaps more than the increased noise. Trying your method @I who love music . I think I at least feel less helpless now.
       
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    27. SusyS
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      SusyS Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      12/2017
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      acoustic trauma
      2 days in, and it has been extremely helpful. I managed to get over the anxiety. I have an idea. @I who love music , you should give a TED talk somewhere! Is there anyone who can arrange this?
       
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      I who love music Member

      Location:
      Michigan
      Tinnitus Since:
      mid seventies
      It sounds like you're going to do fine.
      For me, the biggest changes came in the first few weeks and I was still amazed in the following months. Now, a few years later I can look back and see the big initial "curve" at the beginning. This is amazing. Step One is the hardest, but gets easier quicky.
       
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      I who love music
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      I who love music Member

      Location:
      Michigan
      Tinnitus Since:
      mid seventies
      Hang in there. Step One is the hard one. But with your attention on your responses, not your T, hopefully you'll be like me in a short while. My responses are WAY down - once every few months if that. People may ask me if my tinnitus is cured, or "Don't you still hear it?" No, I don't. And I don't talk about T at all, except here.
       
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    30. kmohoruk
      Nerdy

      kmohoruk Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      07/2005
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Loud Noise, Ear Infection, TMJ
      I was wondering @I who love music , how do you find your H these days? Does it cause you any distress when you are exposed to any sudden loud sounds?
       

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