Does Anyone Feel Like They Have to Act at a Job or Life to Get By?

Discussion in 'Support' started by SeekIngAlpha, Sep 4, 2016.

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    1. SeekIngAlpha

      SeekIngAlpha Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2003
      Does anyone feel like they have to act @ job or life to get by? I mean pretend that all is fine and concentrate on work and have a good attitude?
       
    2. racerfish
      No Mood

      racerfish Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      2005
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Noise / T worsened with antiobiotics
      Sometimes. Only very close friends and family know about my T. I feel as if most people don't understand it since I look visibly fine. Otherwise, at work I have to be "on" or everyone will start asking me what's wrong, and I don't feel like going there with coworkers.
       
    3. volsung37

      volsung37 Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      2014
      Its getting very difficult to act now.
       
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    4. Sam Bridge

      Sam Bridge Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2012
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Loud music/gigs probably
      Can you guys mask your t? Sometimes i play masking sounds from my phone if ifs quiet.
       
    5. Alue

      Alue Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      01/2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Acoustic Trauma
      No.
      Do sounds from your phone actually mask it for you or just distract?
       
    6. Sam Bridge

      Sam Bridge Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2012
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Loud music/gigs probably
      This track i got from itunes which is cricket sounds and a river seems to totallt mask it on low volume.
       
    7. OnceUponaTime
      Facebooking

      OnceUponaTime Member Benefactor

      Location:
      New York
      Tinnitus Since:
      11/11
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Allergies or Acoustic Trauma, Stress
      Yes, most of the time, act "as if"... . No one can really understand. You must keep moving forward with life. Pain or no pain... struggles or no struggles. Having a good attitude helps a lot...even when it is hard to have a good attitude. Look for the good in that day in the people around you. Before t. my life was passing me by...now I really feel the days, the time...life. Everyday is so real and intense with t. I cannot even describe the load we bear....it touches every aspect of your life deeply...emotional, mental, spiritual and physical. Anyways I am babbling now... yes I am sure some of us act as if because there is really nothing else to do... unless you want to cry and whine about it to everybody and that is not a healthy option. Speak life, speak health, speak joy for your life.

      Chin up, better days are coming. :)
       
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    8. JasonP

      JasonP Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      6/2006
      Today I did. It was the most miserable day I think I have had all year. Instead of trying to sleep I faced the day and it was brutal but tonight isn't so bad. Part of my problem is that I have had depression issues for a while and I am going through a benzo withdrawal/tolerance problem. Bad week this past week. Time will tell what happens in the future though. I was doing great last month..in fact probably one of my best months in years.
       
    9. Lorac

      Lorac Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Michigan
      Tinnitus Since:
      2013
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Sudden profound hearing loss in left ear.
      I have had to fake it to make it with tinnitus. This was particularly true for me during the early months. I had to fake happiness for the sake of my family, especially my grandkids. I really just wanted to die.
       
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    10. Alue

      Alue Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      01/2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Acoustic Trauma
      I feel this way increasingly more and more. Going to an interview was painful because it's a quiet room and this damn ringing makes it hard to focus on the conversation. I went to a funeral the other day and that was very uncomfortable as well. It's quiet so the ringing is loud then the pastor got up and spoke loudly into a microphone. Going out to eat at a restaurant is a challenge too. It was loud enough I wanted to put in my earplugs, and I did for a little bit, but then it seems like you are being rude doing that so I took them out.

      I'm really having a hard time dealing with this. Loud T and H is a nightmare. It really is an invisible disability even though no one but those that suffer from it think of it as such.
       
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    11. Bobby B
      Fine

      Bobby B Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      11/2015
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      long term NIHL and recent acoustic trauma
      If you have very sensitive eyes then it's not rude wearing sunglasses - same for ears I won't go out wihtout some kind of hearing protection it does not bother me at all wearing plugs or muffs .

      Yes life is less fun than before that's sure but so what , no ones notices your different and the job who cares anyway most People only think about themselves
       
    12. Alue

      Alue Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      01/2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Acoustic Trauma
      You protect your hearing a lot. Doesn't your tinnitus just scream with earplugs in? Mine does.
       
    13. Bobby B
      Fine

      Bobby B Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      11/2015
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      long term NIHL and recent acoustic trauma
      Yes it does scream so what ? I have To accept it and try to move on. I can hear it wihtout plugs just fine as well.
      I won't accept a worsening though - hence the protection .
      Besides I want my brain to get used to more hearing loss than what I actually have and forget about those lost frequencies so plugs may help in the long run
       
    14. Kar4
      Not worthy

      Kar4 Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2005
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      acoustic trauma
      Absolutely. Today my condition went so bad, that I left work early to see a doctor. Of course, tomorrow people will be interested what is going on.
      What can I say? "Yeah, im fine." or "It will be better", for sure. Why telling the people "It will bothers me until the end of my life and there is no cure" while there is no way how they can help. Also have no clue how I realy feel.
      They surely noticed I act strange sometimes, feeling edgy, sitting with my head in palms can't concentrate on work. Probably they think it is just my nature.
       
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    15. SeekIngAlpha

      SeekIngAlpha Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2003
      What techniques is anyone using to get by at work?
       
    16. Jacob83

      Jacob83 Member

      Location:
      Wisconsin
      Tinnitus Since:
      06/2000
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      loud headphones
      I work in a team oriented workplace and I'm pretty friendly with most of my coworkers, so lately I've just been asking them more and more about what they've been up to and how things are going. Keeps my mind off the T even if it's just for a few minutes. A few minutes is still a few minutes.
       
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    17. JasonP

      JasonP Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      6/2006
      I kind of need more information. How loud is your T (what can mask it) and are you taking any medications at all right now?
       
    18. SeekIngAlpha

      SeekIngAlpha Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2003
      No meds. Loud. I really need to say zero to people about it because its never helped me in any way. I exception is really close friends and family and even then its disaster. I have to vow not to talk to anyone except a therapist or 1 close feiend from now on. Its harder than t rhe not sharing
       
    19. JasonP

      JasonP Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      6/2006
      Wow that is horrible. Is there anything you know of that can lower it temporarily? Also, how was this T caused?
       
    20. PaulBe

      PaulBe Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Cairns
      Tinnitus Since:
      11/2013
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Probably sound, though never proven
      It really is an invisible disability because no one but those that suffer from it think of it as such. Fixed.
       
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    21. SeekIngAlpha

      SeekIngAlpha Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2003
      T didn't ruin my life complaining to people about it did. Ended up nearly hospitalised from stress of t. Pretending to be ok and able to wrk sith it is hard. I think positivity is great but its an act for me. If I can let off steam in this forum that helps me.
      Alot of people say stay off the forum if you feel down about t but I feel the opposite. Forum should be for support.
       
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    22. JasonP

      JasonP Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      6/2006
      Wow that is horrible. Is there anything you know of that can lower it temporarily? Also, how was this T caused?
       
    23. Dana
      Chicken

      Dana Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      09/2008
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      not known, too many possible causes
      Great question. I do that now, otherwise I am excluded from the crowd. People do noT want to hear about it, I am regarded as obnoxious when I mention T, if I mention it too much they go away. We have to keep it our secret, unfortunately. Not even my family cares.
       
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    24. Kar4
      Not worthy

      Kar4 Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2005
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      acoustic trauma
      Yes, people don't like to listen to complains. But it is understandable... there is something like a negative energy around you and people feels like it is infectious in some way. Even most empathic person withdrawns, once he understand that there is no way how he can help.
      Everyone likes positive, happy and funny people, depressive and handicapped people remaining like outsiders - it's logical and it's the way this world is.
      Maybe I am just adapted to it. As far as I remember (before T), always tried to fit in society, being positive, making jokes of everything around. Although it is not easy and my face is peaky most of the time. People likes me for my sense of humor (I think so).
      Only when alone, it is time for tears.
       
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    25. SeekIngAlpha

      SeekIngAlpha Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2003
      I used to joke and have a sense of humor. Somewhere along the line I lost that. For me t alters my personality. No doubt.
       
    26. SeekIngAlpha

      SeekIngAlpha Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2003
      I thought t was gone at one point but it came back. Still practicing meditation I learnt via neurofeedback and it is helping.
       

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