The "What If..." Thread

Discussion in 'Support' started by i.m, May 21, 2016.

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    1. i.m
      Anime

      i.m Member

      Location:
      The "Lack of English" Land: Italy
      Tinnitus Since:
      18/02/2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      For me: Aspartame Poisoning. For Ent: L: TMJD / R: Dunno
      Lots of us, unfortunately, gained T after doing something wrong, like loud events, medical issues, etc.

      These events were avoidable if only we had the opportunity to know the consequences and protect our ears or act in differents ways.

      Now I am in the same boat, since it seems that my new tone is causes by benzo c/t, and all that stops me to habituate to this new tone is "What if I had not taken that drug" etc. triggering the anxious / depressive spiral.

      I would like to use this thread for those who had this kind of experience and what did they do to habituate despite regret thoughts. It could help those people like me who are more bothered from the thoughts than the T presence.
       
    2. Leqi

      Leqi Member

      Location:
      Wellington,NZ
      Tinnitus Since:
      April 2014
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Neomycin Ear drop
      My doctor gave me an ototoxic ear drop to try, even if it was a wrong prescription, it triggered my catastrophic T, in the last two years I have been asking myself what if I had not gone to the doctor in the first place...what if he had not given me that bloody ear drop to try....once I am in the loop I am never out.

      So my advice is Do Not think about "what if.." because there is no way to go back to regret.
       
    3. Alue

      Alue Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      01/2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Acoustic Trauma
      WTF? Why would they even make an ototoxic drug to be put directly in your ear?

      For me it's what if I had never taken that job. The job was a huge pay cut for me and I was afraid it would hurt my career accepting it. I never thought an idiot coworker would fuck up my life.
       
    4. Leqi

      Leqi Member

      Location:
      Wellington,NZ
      Tinnitus Since:
      April 2014
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Neomycin Ear drop
      There are some old ototopical ear drops are ototoxic themselves, not logical at all, I know.. the one I used was neomycin based.
       
    5. fishbone
      Happy

      fishbone Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      1990
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      loud noise and very bad sickness
      What is done..is done.....by saying what if, does not change our present situation. All of us have regrets and wish we could have changed things and not be at our current spots. If we live in regrets, then accepting and coping can be a slower/harder process....
       
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    6. Sara_Bond
      Cool

      Sara_Bond Member Benefactor

      Location:
      France
      Tinnitus Since:
      28.10.2015
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Noise exposure
      @l.m
      Thank you for this thread. My regrets are so deep that i'm losing myself in my thoughts. And I'm currently in this phase. I'm not accpeting my situation and would never I think cause the consequences are too big. T&H. T is awful,H is horrible and I'm sorry to say that. Mine is noise induced. And all I can say is that has ruined my life and my projects. I'm too young to have this curse ruining my life. It has ruined my serenity. So I mean of course people have to think what if cause that's not something which is easy. If you're lucky enough to have just mild T that's ok. In other cases that's too hard.

      @fishbone You're strong if you can do this, accepting and coping.
       
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    7. Aussie Lea
      Dramaqueen

      Aussie Lea Member

      Location:
      Melbourne Yarra Valley
      Tinnitus Since:
      01/09/2013
      Hindsight never works. People make mistakes all the time. Doctors kill people every day. If you cannot get over these negative processes, seek the consultation of a CBT therapist.

      But I understand!!
       
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    8. Zora
      Kick ass

      Zora Member

      Location:
      Germany
      Tinnitus Since:
      12/2015
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      1st time: Megaphone ;2nd time: headphones too loud
      this is not a good thread. sorry to say that. But its really not good. very contraproductive in terms of accepting and letting go - which means contraproductive to habituate and be happy again. The "what if-thought" is tempting, i know. but really this isnt a good way to talk about how we got T.
       
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    9. Axel
      Depressed

      Axel Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      11/2009
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Medicin
      Oh yes have been thinking that many times. Shouldnt have taken that drug. It didnt help anyway and am now left with a horrible side effect. If it at least had helped for what it was prescribed that could have made the T a little more bearable or maybe not. But what does it help thinking like that? Not much.
       
    10. michaelbio

      michaelbio Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Long Island, New York
      Tinnitus Since:
      Teenager
      Anyone here who has T and/or H should not be thinking of the regrettable moments. I first remember T from an antibiotic I took when I was 10, it was very mild then. Being a musician made it worse. The reality is I would have gotten it some other way at some other time period eventually. It's no different than a person who goes to concert after concert, who doesn't wear ear protection and has no sign of T. Yes, there are ways to minimize the possibilities, but I believe it is a predisposition.

      I have a family history of tinnitus. 3 uncles on my Dad side, my grandmother who passed on my dads side. My brother and I. My grandmother never went to any loud events in her lifetime, and other than managing diabetes she was healthy.

      How someone is more susceptible to diabetes, cancers, heart attacks, I believe our brains are more fragile to acquiring a hearing disorder.

      Life will always have regrets.
       
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    11. Scott T
      Alone

      Scott T Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2008
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Ear wax removal?
      The only thing that I think about is going to the ENT and getting my ears cleaned out cause after 3 years of wax buildup I was bad ear pain and a spike. I curse the day I went and blame myself for having healthcare.
       
    12. quietatnight
      Frustrated

      quietatnight Member

      Location:
      Rockford IL
      Tinnitus Since:
      1990
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Accustic tramma due being too close to a fire craker when I was a kid
      Scott T

      I was just wondering did you have your ear wax removed using suction ? I have had that done once before and it cause a bad spike but it finally did settle back down after a month or so. Now I tell everyone to ONLY get it removed manually under an microscope. It's the only safe way.

      How long ago did you have it done, if I may ask ?


      Anyway, I can understand you having a regret about that.


      Hope things get better for you someday soon.


      Louie

      Quietatnight
       
    13. Scott T
      Alone

      Scott T Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2008
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Ear wax removal?

      Hi Louie,
      Yes, it was the microsuction. I have had it in the past as well but I was in a spike with ear pain and this was the reason why I went. It has been 11 days and I have been going through the stages of death and seeking penance for all of my wrong doings in my life.
       
    14. linearb
      Psychedelic

      linearb Member Hall of Fame

      Location:
      East Coast USA
      Tinnitus Since:
      1998
      what if my best friend hadn't died of cancer when she was 33? :-P
       
    15. quietatnight
      Frustrated

      quietatnight Member

      Location:
      Rockford IL
      Tinnitus Since:
      1990
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Accustic tramma due being too close to a fire craker when I was a kid
      Scott T

      11 days is nothing, like I said it took me over a month almost 2 to totally to get back to my baseline, but you will recover too in time. They need to outlaw that procedure, they only do it that way to save time and get more people in and out of the office faster. The more people in a day the more money they make. Manual removal takes a lot longer, and they can't charge more for it so they don't offer it. Last time that I had it done it took 45 minutes. It's always about the almighty dollar. Did you ask the ENT for steriods ? Couldn't hurt to give that a try, I took them about 3 days after my suction ordeal, I can't be sure if it helped or not. 11 days may be a little too long, but they still couldn't hurt. Just something to think about.

      You hang in there, it's will get better. Try and keep busy.


      Good luck

      Louie

      Quietatnight
       

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