Finding a Quiet Place to Live When You Have No Money and Can't Work

[Sen]

How can this be done?

 

[Alue]

Join a Buddhist monastery maybe. I don't know, it's hard enough living when you can't work (at least in some countries).

 

[Bill Bauer]

How can this be done?

Move to the countryside.

 

[Sen]

Move to the countryside.

And live in a tent?

 

[Jake007]

And live in a tent?

Or get a camper

 

[Sen]

Or get a camper

Costs money. Doesn't sound very quiet either, especially if it's windy or rainy.

 

[Sen]

I don't know what I am going to do.

 

[3ri0w]

I don't know what I am going to do.

Broo I have the same problem. Living in a block of flats sucks

 

[Sen]

Living in a block of flats sucks

My grandmother lives in a block of flats and it's extremely quiet. Granted, it's a senior citizen only apartment complex, but still. I would love to live in a place exactly like hers.

 

[3ri0w]

My grandmother lives in a block of flats and it's extremely quiet. Granted, it's a senior citizen only apartment complex, but still. I would love to live in a place exactly like hers.

Well why don't you? Where do you live if not in a block of flats? It's the cheapest building type to live in ye?

 

[Sen]

Well why don't you? Where do you live if not in a block of flats? It's the cheapest building type to live in ye?

Because I can't afford it. It's not cheap where I live, at least not cheap enough to pay for with the scraps I'm thrown for my disability.

I live in my parents basement right now, but my home situation is difficult and volatile. I feel like I could make more progress with my health and my life if I were able to escape this borderline abusive situation, but I feel trapped and paralyzed at the moment.

 

[3ri0w]

Because I can't afford it. It's not cheap where I live, at least not cheap enough to pay for with the scraps I'm thrown for my disability.

I live in my parents basement right now, but my home situation is difficult and volatile. I feel like I could make more progress with my health and my life if I were able to escape this borderline abusive situation, but I feel trapped and paralyzed at the moment.

Ye and cheap place to live = bad neighbors = lot of noise all the best mate

 

[Hyperhelper]

Maybe one day we could have a hyperacusis and tinnitus house in a reasonably inexpensive area with enough land that it would be peaceful. It could be a house share situation.

We could also start advertising within groups for people who needed to rent a room from others who have hyperacusis and or tinnitus.

Key of course would be that you would have to be willing to relocate to another state in many cases because we can't do one in every state. same goes for countries other than the USA.

 

[Marc22]

Sen:

I live with a relative, and thankfully the situation is OK, but it has been volatile. If it were not for this relative , I would be living alone in some crappy little apartment with food running out fast every month. With h. I would not even be able to go to a foodbank! For now, things are fine, but everything in my life is on a razor`s edge.

So I understand your predicament. But I have no solution., sorry.

I would not be surprised if I eventually die alone in some hovel, with someone discovering my body 10 days later after the smell started permeating the building. Sorry for the pessimism ,but that is how I feel about my prospects.

Marco

 

[Lex]

@Sen, are you in the US? There's someone in the Hyperacusis Support FB group who has to move out of his grandma's house, but his problem is budget. Maybe the two of you can pull your resources together and have better prospects for a new home. PM me if you want to get his name.

 

[Sen]

are you in the US?

Nope. =/

 

[Lex]

@Sen, the admin/mod of the Hyperacusis Support & Research Group on Facebook just made a group announcement today about sufferers looking for housing. It's meant for all members to use like a Craigslist ad of some sort, regardless of the country. I hope you find someone within the same country.

A member there posted this thread you made on that group in response to someone looking for housing (too bad that someone lives in the US). I think it's what spurred the admin/mod to create the group announcement.

Someone else already posted about having a room available in Brighton UK by February. I'd keep an eye out for that thread.

 

[Julien87]

What country do you live in Sen?

 

[Alue]

Ye and cheap place to live = bad neighbors = lot of noise all the best mate

I recently bought a house in a nice "quiet" neighborhood. One neighbor has a dog that barks at everything at all times day or night, and another neighbor feeds the birds so they decide to live in the tree right outside my bedroom window. I get woken up by the morning dove every time I try to sleep in on the weekend.

Granted they are not painful or dangerously loud sounds, but they are still annoying.

 

[3ri0w]

Join a Buddhist monastery maybe. I don't know, it's hard enough living when you can't work (at least in some countries).

man.. have you seen the huge gongs and bells they play? Bound to spike your T and give u H

I recently bought a house in a nice "quiet" neighborhood. One neighbor has a dog that barks at everything at all times day or night, and another neighbor feeds the birds so they decide to live in the tree right outside my bedroom window. I get woken up by the morning dove every time I try to sleep in on the weekend.

Granted they are not painful or dangerously loud sounds, but they are still annoying.

Dang I feel you...have you told them that the dog annoys you with its barking

 

[Candy]

Live under the flight path of one of the largest airports in Europe.
Couldn't hear it with the doors closed but the last week it's been audible indoors too...you can see the planes clearly including which airline they are but I can't move as we've spent all our savings and efforts in the last 4 years renovating this old house, kids like it here, and financially it would be very difficult to move.
You have age on your side and freedom, use it. Living at home is hard, I'm in mu early 40s and I suspect my parents think am neurotic with this T business. They minimise my situation which they probably think helps with my anxiety. They're asking us to go on holiday with them and I know no allowances will be made for my condition, not only, I will also have to put up with with stuff and comments that I normally find irritating (and bite my tongue) so I've said no. Also the location is too quiet and Mr T rears his ugly head big time when it's too quiet.
I put myself first now, someone has to.

Question - why the silence, my T goes nuts with no background sound or talking etc. Do you have bad T is it H that bothers you most?

 

[Sen]

and freedom

That's a stretch.

Question - why the silence, my T goes nuts with no background sound or talking etc.

I do 24/7 sound enrichment, with 24/7 pink noise, some music every day, and TV/twitch streams playing all day. I want a quiet living space, not a silent one.

Do you have bad T is it H that bothers you most?

I have bad T, but H is what bothers me the most, yes. I'm reasonably well habituated to my T.

 

[Candy]

I see, then moving to the country makes sense...I find that working helps my t and my H greatly improved with lots of sounds around me and probably Ines I could not predict. I kne I had to expose myself as that is the only way to improve, with T it's been trickier in my case due to the volume. Don't get me wrong, I avoid loud places too, that's a step too far and then you realise how many are too noisy (bars, concerts, sports games, the list goes on). I hope you can find a way forward.

 

[Alue]

Dang I feel you...have you told them that the dog annoys you with its barking

I've tried, called animal control on them twice, but they have no authority to do anything.

 

[Sen]

I see, then moving to the country makes sense.

Sure. The question is "how?"

I find that working helps my t and my H greatly

There is not much work I can do, unless you have any ideas for quiet jobs I can do that don't require speaking or using my hands.

 

[Candy]

How long have you had your RSA for?
When I was 21 I got TMJ, it was awful at the time and couldn't imagine it going away, it eventually meant that I decided not to go into lecturing, but I learned how to manage it, and after the first year of very bad pain the bouts got shorter.
Re speaking I keep my conversations on the phone short, the phone has always aggravated my jaw and now the sound bothers me too so I rely on email a lot more...
I suffer with my jaw, have eczema, my neck isn't great and I have T, my mental health is not great either but work helps me...am terrified of being at home as it magnifies my T, yet am exhausted and could do with a shorter week...it's tricky and hard to get out of our comfort zone whatever that may be. Both taking on a job or taking on less hours are big decisions in our situation- yet we must take some calculated risks and keep an open mind. Maybe focus on your RSA enough to get to work, then once you earning you could intensify treatment?

 

[Sen]

How long have you had your RSA for?

Since 2011. It has progressively worsened over time despite doing my best to try and reverse it.

 

[Candy]

Sorry to hear that...would you be able to do some work in a farm or farm shop, in the country while keeping your disability income? Here in the U.K. if you work under 16 hours as it's all you can manage you will still get some benefits.
Am sure you've gone through the options...

 

[Alue]

Sorry to hear that...would you be able to do some work in a farm or farm shop, in the country while keeping your disability income? Here in the U.K. if you work under 16 hours as it's all you can manage you will still get some benefits.
Am sure you've gone through the options...

Farms can be pretty loud from what I understand.

 

[Tinker Bell]

Farms can be pretty loud from what I understand.

I can confirm that. I grew up on a farm. There is loud machinery and livestock. Tractors are louder than cars. Cattle, hogs, sheep, and chickens are loud too. And farm dogs are great protectors but bark often to alert you.