How to be happy?

Discussion in 'Support' started by Penelope33, Apr 24, 2014.

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    1. Penelope33
      Torn

      Penelope33 Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      October 2013
      How can I ever be happy when I know I'm going to be left like this for life? Every day and night a battle, tying to pretend to be happy for my kids, yet crumbling when there're asleep. How to be happy again, truly happy and genuinely happy. I fear bedtime, I feel the cosyness of my sheets on my skin snd hear the horrendous noise pouring out of my ears, it's a horrible contradiction.
       
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    2. Rog

      Rog Member

      Location:
      NY and Brazil
      Tinnitus Since:
      02/2014
      Not for life @Penelope33 . I know how hard its trust me. I am confident and sure that soon we will have treatment . By now i don't even care much for cure anymore (although it would be great) but i know and have faith that theres a treatment coming .:)
       
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    3. dan
      Chatty

      dan Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      06/2011
      One word- habituation.
       
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    4. awbw8
      Balanced

      awbw8 Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      04/2013
      Hi @Penelope33. I'm so sorry you're feeling this way and I think many of us have to some degree been where you are.

      How to be happy in the face of suffering, well, that's something people far more wise than I have been trying to figure out for a very, very long time. Good news is, you don't have to suffer from tinnitus, habituation will prove to be a "cure" for you in time. Tinnitus will not be the center of everything forever.

      All I know is that I felt that contradiction you're talking about so keenly a year ago - my bed was no longer comfortable, all the trimmings of home seemed to be cruel reminders of how easy life was before, my whole world was colored by tinnitus. I asked the same questions you're asking right now. I'm happy again and I really did not see how that could happen before.

      Hang in there, thing can be good and light and lovely again :)
       
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    5. Penelope33
      Torn

      Penelope33 Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      October 2013
      Thank you, I really hope things will change for the better but it's like facing a fight with lions every moment of every day.
       
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    6. awbw8
      Balanced

      awbw8 Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      04/2013
      It will get better. :)

      It's an overused quote, but "When you're going through hell, keep going." Keep moving forward and doing little things to calm yourself and let yourself heal, make sure you are getting sleep, maybe go talk to a caring psychologist, do yoga, read, play videogames - whatever gives you even a second where you have to focus on something other than T. In time, that T will get less and less terrible until it's not terrible at all. Just keep living.
       
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    7. Denny

      Denny Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      Jan 2013
      @Penelope33

      you are planning your life/future around your tinnitus, you have it for quiet a few
      months but it has become the focus of your life, eventually your brain will stop giving
      so much importance to it and you will be in a much better position.
       
    8. jewellanne1010

      jewellanne1010 Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      06/1999
      Hang in there I have had T for a long time. I have been were you are . My faith in God , my husband and children keeped me going. I still have my days don't get me wrong but I look back on how far I've come and i will keep keeping on . It does get easier and yes the brain finds away to adapt. Hang in there stay busy, take a bath , play uplifting music, give your kids a big hug .You can overcome. !!!
       
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    9. Jeff M.
      Cowabunga

      Jeff M. Member Benefactor

      Location:
      La Jolla, CA
      Tinnitus Since:
      Oct. 2012
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Idiopathic
      Hey jewellanne1010, I totally echo much of what has already been shared with you above!! I know it's difficult to truly grasp that you will ever get thru this! But YOU WILL ..... :)

      Please read my post from January:

      https://www.tinnitustalk.com/threads/habituate.3120/#post-37298

      It's all true and I am still going strong today!! (With the occasional bad day here and there ;) )

      I wish you peace and strength and joy!! Know that we here on TT are a great place to find support (we get it) and a wonderful shoulder to cry on!!
       
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    10. gary
      Transparent

      gary Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Macomb, MI. USA
      Tinnitus Since:
      07/2012
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Who Knows
      Penelope, you're only 6 months in, all of us here have been down the same road as you. Keep on reading others situations, and various posts, realize you are not alone, far from it. I am a few years in now and am doing much better than I was a year ago. Some excellent reading can be found right here on ask the Dr. Have a look....
       
    11. pef

      pef Member

      Location:
      Georgia, USA
      Tinnitus Since:
      3/16/2013
      Stop being sad and start being happy.

      I'm not trying to be flippant.

      You wrote you have kids. Be thankful for them. Be happy. Many people cannot have kids, would give anything to have children. You have priceless treasures.

      When my T began, I was a wreck. But after a while I made a conscious effort find things in my life for which I should be thankful. My kids. My wife. My health. Try this. Walk around your home. Look at all the things that bring joy to your life. Look at what you have and be happy for it.
       
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    12. I who love music
      Cheerful

      I who love music Member

      Location:
      Michigan
      Tinnitus Since:
      mid seventies
      Don't just hang in there, don't wait for habituation, and don't waste your time hoping for a cure.
      Get busy. Take action.
      Measure your response. Do NOT measure your T.
      Do not listen to, or for your T. Do not spend one more second even thinking about it.
      Think about your response. Measure your response.
      Be honest.
      One word of your post was a measurement, "Crumbling."
      Now start regularly measuring the degree of crumbling, or other feelings you have.
      You'll see a change.
       
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