Tinnitus and Love Life — Worried About Relationships & Dating

Discussion in 'Support' started by SebastianWJ, Jan 5, 2019.

    1. SebastianWJ

      SebastianWJ Member

      Location:
      Denmark
      Tinnitus Since:
      10/2017
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Cocaine
      I have a question that's been worrying me since I developed tinnitus.

      With my tinnitus I am unable to sleep without television as background noise, and I’m worried about what it’s gonna do once I get a girlfriend in the future when it’s time to go to bed. That it might annoy her or cause trouble in the relationship.

      What do you guys with a girl/boyfriend do. I’m all ears for suggestions and help.

      I’m really worried it’s gonna put an end to my love life. Hope you can help me.
       
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    2. Michael B
      Supportive

      Michael B Member Benefactor

      Location:
      San Diego, CA
      Tinnitus Since:
      2011
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Stupidity
      The first thing I thought of saying is that if she knows of your situation and likes you, she'll accept the TV. On the other hand, it's not unusual for people to sleep with sound machines if that's a possibility for you.
       
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    3. Arseny
      Wishful

      Arseny Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Possibly from problems with blood flow
      I think sleping with television as background noise is more of a habit. Have you tried other sounds like waterfalls/rain? Nature sounds? They are much more tolerable for other people than TV.
      Check out https://mynoise.net/NoiseMachines/

      My sister has been married for more than 20 years now and her husband can't sleep without TV on. It's a constant struggle for both of them. Typically she just stays up working until he falls asleep and then she turns off TV and goes to bed herself.

      I honestly think that if your only worried about noise from TV at night then you'll be fine. It means that tinnutis probably doesn't affect affect your social life in a great way. That's good! Don't feel discouraged! Go get it!)
       
    4. JohnAdams
      Starving

      JohnAdams Member Benefactor Hall of Fame

      Location:
      here
      Tinnitus Since:
      it started.
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      hearing loss
      Can you go with a fan? Most people in know sleep with a fan on anyway.
       
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    5. john paul
      English

      john paul Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      11/11/17
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      acoustic trauma
      i use my phone with a noise app under my pillow on a timer. You can't hear it unless you put your ear to the pillow. Sometimes you might need an external source as well to do the other ear depending on how bad your tinnitus is. I can't imagine some water noise being an issue for someone else, especially if they love you. Crickets on the other hand maybe you might have problems with.
       
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      SebastianWJ

      SebastianWJ Member

      Location:
      Denmark
      Tinnitus Since:
      10/2017
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Cocaine
      Thanks everyone I will try the suggestions
       
    7. Fabrikat

      Fabrikat Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      1973
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Otosclerosis then volume then viral infection
      Not just your love life Sebastian, but maybe also your health. If you Google the effects of blue/green light emanating from screens and phones etc., on the brain at night time, you'll find a bit of research indicating that this kind of light interferes with the body's circadian rhythm and melatonin production. The last thing a tinnitus sufferer needs! It literally messes with your hormones and it's even speculated to lead to all sorts of illnesses. Maybe another source of sound would be better for you and your girlfriend.

      https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/blue-light-has-a-dark-side
       
    8. Agrajag364

      Agrajag364 Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      09/2017
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Unknown
      You could always get a girlfriend who has tinnitus too. I know someone whose partner slept with the radio on and it rarely bothered her.
       
    9. hans799
      Mellow

      hans799 Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Hungary
      Tinnitus Since:
      Born with it
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Worsened Dec 2016 by headphones
      I've had tinnitus all my life and had no problems with girlfriends. I explained to each of them that I have this constant noise and it sometimes makes me anxious and I can't go to loud places, and every one of them was very supportive. Cutting out parties and concerts wasn't a big deal, either - they either went with their friends or were actually glad for an excuse to not have to go. :)

      I sleep with earplugs so no suggestions with the background noise.
       

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