Very Inspiring Success Story I Found on the Internet... Must Read!

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    1. Asian

      Asian Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      4 weeks
      This is my first post here because during my dark times I just wanted to avoid talking and thinking about it so much, but boy do I have a story for you. Specifically this post is for those of you who where I was 6 short months ago, Suddenly finding yourself saddled with something you don't understand and could not make sense of.

      People's reactions to T vary wildly from minor annoyance to soul crushing depression, I'm guessing by the fact that you are here means you fall a little latter on that scale like I did. I would spend countless hours googling T and every possible combination of words I could think of.(seriously you have to stop doing this) I thought for sure they had to be a cure for this, I simply couldn't imagine living the rest of my life like this. If only I could find out exactly the cause I could reverse it, but as many of us learned, such a fix rarely comes.

      You may think that nobody can understand the pain you are experiencing. Believe me I did. The world kept moving around me and here I was constantly on the verge of a breakdown. To make matters worse it has very hard to get someone to understand exactly how debilitating T can be, most people thinking a little ringing in the ears couldn't possibly be that bad. Congratulations for not punching them in the face, unless you did, in which case....good job.

      Before I start dolling out advice like I'm some kind of expert( I'm not). I just want you, the newcomer, to trust I know what you are going through, I know what it's like to spend hours in the shower to make the sound stop just for a while. I know what it's like to contemplate suicide. I know what it's like to look at my home surroundings that used to be so comfortable to me as a mockery of the happy life I used to have. I missed silence more than I ever imagined. My sense of loss was constant and profound

      I felt terrified at just the idea of this being forever, I felt guilty about whatever I didn't do to protect myself from this, I felt anger at myself that I didn't appreciate how lucky I was before, and I was overwhelmed with a sense of regret and a deep sense of injustice. I thought I was a fairly decent person, So I didn't believe my life should basically be over at age 26.I know these perpetually negative thoughts too well. They just cycle through your head over and over again. Until ,believe me, someday they don't

      I still remember the desperation, I would have done anything to stop the noise in my head. Including such brilliant methods of roughly banging my head of the wall (to jostle the brain a little), standing right in front of the loud speaker at a music show, and placing my ears directly under the high powered shower stream. Those of you with brains will recognize these methods are the opposite of helpful, but that's desperation for you.

      The good news is coming. To say it gets better is an understatement. When you read about people talking about their T online it's usually because they are still in desperation mode too, those of us who have essentially moved on with our lives don't lend our voices to the crowd enough. As a result the new T sufferer may get the impression online that they are the newest member in the world's most depressing club. Please believe me, your T will become less and less of a force in your life until it's only occasionally and mildly annoying, if that.

      So how did I get better? Apart from the obvious force of time. You have to get ready to really grapple with yourself and exactly what are going though. Science hasn't helped us much, the best doctors can really do is prescribe you anxiety or sleeping pills if you need them. You have to face this battle yourself, try to reason your way out of the pain as best you can, if it's still hard for you to do it's no biggie, in time you will.The human brain just is not wired to be miserable forever. We have this thing called neural plasticity, so the longer you live with T, generally speaking it will become less and less noticeable.

      But how does all this effect you now? You can start with a few exorcises I found helpful. First, identify the sound correctly on a rational level and hope your subconscious follows. The odds are incredibly strong that the noise we are experience is a normal process in the brain and that normal people experience it too. When they stretch in the morning, when they spend a long time in a noisy environment, or if they are in a truly silent rooms. I personally remember these short bursts of the sound in my pre-T life. So what does this mean for you? Right now you are reading the sound as a foreign intrusion that is just messing up your hearing, when really we are just experiencing an amplification of a naturally occurring process. Does this make a real difference? On a subconscious level I think it does, the sound doesn't seem quite so alien, and that at least helps to know there's not something seriously going wrong with your hearing .

      I've saved my most important recommendation for last,but honestly believe that masking (along with a good anti depressant) saved my life. You see most of us can mask the sound of our T with static white noise such as this
      12 Hours of White Noise (Static) in Stereo....


      There are a million ways to alter the sound and volume to a level that suits you, but I burned a CD of just white noise and I had it constantly playing wherever I was for months. Some people will advice against it because it is only a "band aid" that does not address the real issue and help you toward habituation. Let me just tell you, that view seriously underestimates the importance of band aids. Sometimes you have to stop the bleeding before you can heal the wound. If you are feeling stressed by the T, then the masker while not perfect, will at least give you some control over it.

      And this is an important part of it. As hard as it may be to you now to understand, the sound itself actually the problem. Objectively speaking the sound should be a small (and mostly subconscious) annoyance at most as shouldn't interfere with any of your activities. It's what the sound REPRESENTS to you that fills you with dread. It's the idea that there is nothing you can do about it, we humans like our freedom of autonomy and T violates so much of what it means to us to be a free person. This is why using a masker like white noise gives a little control back to you. You can go about your routine but always know that a few feet away is a cd player that will play a sound that will let you get your relax ion back for a while. And that's what you really need, relaxation. With most of life's challenges at least you usually get a cool off period to calm yourself down, that's what masking will do for the vast majority of you.

      And I'm here to tell you, anecdotaly at least, that masking has long term benefits as well .I masked constantly for months, I could never imagine not having to use this noise though, until one day I just realized I could. The white noise made me perceive my sound as coming from an outside source, which is much easier to deal with. So now that I've stopped masking, most of the time my T subconsciously registers as background noise. It really is a miracle that I hope many of you can replicate . I do still use the masking on rare occasions when I'm watching a movie or something and I'm noticing the T, but then I just flip the masker on for a few minutes and I'm good to go again.

      I have to be honest, I'm only 6 months into this so I'm hardly a guru. I think I've made tremendous progress in only 6 months (that feels like 6 years), but I still occasionally get a little down about it, but these moments are getting rarer and shorter lived. I have full confidence that I'll be 100% the old me in 6 more months.

      So please, know these dark early days WILL pass. I know it's painful, it's the hardest thing I've ever had to do, but you will get your life back. The simple pleasures. For me it's a warm shower in the morning and the companionship of my fiance and two wonderful little dogs. Almost ever day now I have a moment when I feel happy to be alive, and honestly I couldn't have even said that before the T.

      So I hope you go to bed tonight and sleep a little better knowing that this pain, as vivid and heart wrenching as it may be, will be gone someday soon. And as an added bonus, life's little problems won't seem so important anymore. If a naturally pessimistic and frequently depressed person like me can find the joy in life post T-pain (kinda pun?) then anyone can. If you need help please reach out to the many wonderful people around the web who have gone through the same thing you are, and if you need any clarification or have any questions for me I'll hang around here for that too. Peace.

      -Christopher
       
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    2. Suzie

      Suzie Member

      Location:
      Milton MA
      Tinnitus Since:
      april 2014
      Thank you Christopher for such encouraging words...I am 6 weeks into this and I am starting to feel a bit better because of wonderful posts such as yours. I read as many hopeful stories as I can to get me thru the depession of T. I will read your story over and over to reassure me that it will and does get better...God bless
       
    3. Martin69
      Artistic

      Martin69 Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Germany
      Tinnitus Since:
      10/2013
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      (Health) Anxiety
      Thanks for sharing. I have seen this story already on the web.
      TRT people say to not mask, otherwise you cannot habituate.
      But I mask oftentimes with high pitched cricket sounds. This is the only sound masking and interfering with my T. White noise makes it louder.
      I don't know if this is the right strategy. But listening to the high pitched CRT TV in my head causes me anxiety and panic. I know that I need working onto my reaction and that it is just music of the brain. I do by going through my day every day.
      But I am not there yet putting it in the back of my bus.
      Take care and stay strong.
       
    4. alifalijohn

      alifalijohn Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      04/15/14
      Hello, I enjoyed reading your blog, it gave me hope, I have my T since April 14/2014, and I feel helpless.thanks for the ecncouragement!. I also have to deal with feeling wobbley and vertigo all day long..don't know anyone experience this..I am afraid to go out of my house for fear of having a vertigo attack, the vertigo started before the the T, just had an Mri , waiting for the result.should know in a few days..took some antibiotic a few months ago , not sure if this started it, have a very bad old neck problem from accident.not sure if this started it..THanks for listening..keep intouch..Stay strong..GOD BLESS YOU.I know that they will find a cure for us one day.
      You were right about being a different person, things that bother me , does not matter now,it has made me a more peaceful person,
       
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    5. Ken219
      No Mood

      Ken219 Member

      Location:
      New York Area
      Tinnitus Since:
      Summer of 1990
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Noise exposure?
      Thank you for that wonderful sorry. It is great you have habituated and sharing with others. You are inspiring. May your many years be calm with pleasure.
       
    6. poopoo

      poopoo Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      05/2014
      Thank you Christopher, this is exactly how I feel now. Thanks for the encouragement!
       
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    7. Teresa1958
      Wishful

      Teresa1958 Member

      Location:
      Alberta, Canada
      Tinnitus Since:
      06/06/2014
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      stress/uncertain
      Thank you for this encouraging post. I am struggling so much with my T now for 7 months. I feel so hopeless and helpless and I know I must find a way to help !myself before I fall into a deep depression. I will try to fight this T without Valium or other drugs that I could get at any clinic without even asking. Doctors want to prescribe drugs quickly and get you out of there office but offer no other encouragement or how to deal with this T problem.
       

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