Cancelling a Concert

[gadsie]

Hey, I'm new to the forum but have been lurking a bit. I'm 19 years old and I think I have had tinnitus for years, but a couple of months ago it became a bit worse due to listening to music too loud and clubbing without earplugs (only a few times very short, but enough to do damage). It is very bearable at the moment, it's very much there, but I only notice it when I pay attention to it or when it's quiet. When I'm busy with other things my brain ignores it.

Anyways, I planned to go to a drake concert this weekend with a friend. We planned this months ago before I was worried about tinnitus. For a long time I also thought earplugs were proper protection, but then I found out that earplugs can't protect against frequencies lower than 125 Hz.

Now I really don't want to go anymore. But my friend is looking forward so extremely much to this concert, that if I tell him I won't go, he will be very pissed and might lose him as a friend.

I'm wondering if I should tell him the truth, or come up with an excuse (sick or something). Mainly I'm curious what you would do.

 

[Jacob83]

Tell him the truth and give your ticket to a friend so he has someone to go with.

 

[Foncky]

Better loose a friend than yourself... But you won't loose him.

Tell the truth, you don't have to be ashamed.

 

[maltese]

that if I tell him I won't go, he will be very pissed and might lose him as a friend.

Nope. Just nope.

If he is a good friend he will understand. He probably won't let you go with him at all.

If you "loose him as a friend" because of that, he was not a good friend in the first place.


Drake's concert will be loud, I can tell you that. And there will be a lot of bass which as you already know is not blocked really well by earplugs.

 

[Krish230]

I'm guessing it's an indoor concert which is generally worse than outside as there's nowhere for the sound to escape. If it was outdoor, I would have suggested you double up with ear protection (ear plugs and ear muffs) and stand near the back and you'll be ok.

I would say give it a miss, I have noise-induced T from clubbing which has got seriously loud due to multiple (fairly unavoidable) noise exposures since I first got it.

As others have said, imo you should tell him. A good friend would of course be gutted, but they'll understand You could even play him an example of what tinnitus sounds like from a YouTube video to give him an idea of what you're hearing, and that you don't want that ringing sound to get even louder as a result of the concert. He might be able to sympathise with you a bit more that way.

 

[Capricornus]

Don't go.

 

[Krish230]

Hey, I'm new to the forum but have been lurking a bit. I'm 19 years old and I think I have had tinnitus for years, but a couple of months ago it became a bit worse due to listening to music too loud and clubbing without earplugs (only a few times very short, but enough to do damage). It is very bearable at the moment, it's very much there, but I only notice it when I pay attention to it or when it's quiet. When I'm busy with other things my brain ignores it.

Anyways, I planned to go to a drake concert this weekend with a friend. We planned this months ago before I was worried about tinnitus. For a long time I also thought earplugs were proper protection, but then I found out that earplugs can't protect against frequencies lower than 125 Hz.

Now I really don't want to go anymore. But my friend is looking forward so extremely much to this concert, that if I tell him I won't go, he will be very pissed and might lose him as a friend.

I'm wondering if I should tell him the truth, or come up with an excuse (sick or something). Mainly I'm curious what you would do.

Did you go to the concert? If so, was there any change in your T?

 

[RonnieCarzatto]

Hey, I had to do the same, had Bastille tickets. It sucks. Take care of number one first though.

 

[Tommi_boi]

I'd give it a miss, your ears would love u for it. There are two of them and one of him

 

[Hopeful1]

Give it a miss and it would be the best thing you have done in your life.