Reality Is the Toughest Thing to Accept

[Jazzer]

Reality is the toughest thing to accept.
Life frequently gives us such hateful predicaments.
Financial mayhem, often through no fault of our own.
The collapse of our careers.
The illnesses of our loved ones.
The despair when they leave us.
Our own catastrophic ill health issues, of which Tinnitus comes very high on the list, I would say at the top.

You don't need me to mention that it seeks to destroy our peace and quiet, our composure, our 'joie de vivre,' our careers, our relationships, our present, our future, and in a very real sense, our lives.

We had such good lives before, productive careers, great social lives with wonderful friends, a healthy sense of humour that amused both ourselves and others.
As we look back we seemingly had everything - or at least - most of what we needed.

And now this
effing-scumbag-vile-hateful-filthy disease.
I truly despise every second of it.
Some people say that it is not a disease.
More than anything else in this life it causes
'Dis - ease !!'

"Crying over spilt milk is completely unavoidable."

We can't help it.
We all do it.
I used to do it every second of every day.
I still do it - but not so much, or so often.
The trouble is - it makes everything very much worse.

We can never put the clock back, can we?
Reality is now - we can only go on from here,
from where we are now.
(Mummy can't make it all better.)

With this truly nasty condition, I attempt to find the best approaches I can to help me cope and go forward.

For me:
meditation,
pussycats,
nice walks,
good company,
pussycats,
good food,
...er....intimacy,
and pussycats
......etc.....

I wonder what if anything helps all you guys?

 

[linearb]

Most of what most people choose to occupy their mind with 99% of the time are ego-based delusions of one kind or another; this eventually leads to terrible suffering, because the reality of our situation at some point stops aligning with our illusions of ourself

consciously working towards acceptance of the current moment, above and beyond all else, as my only goal in all things, has led to less suffering than any amount of indignantly trying to give the middle finger to the universe and cry "this isn't happening!" - it is happening, and it's all fine, because it's the only way things can possibly be... put differently, reality is the only thing to accept, everything else is a hallucinatory waste of time. Most people would probably prefer a nice fantasy to reality, but chasing that endlessly leads to bottomless miseries.

 

[Jazzer]

Reality is all there is folks.
If we don't accept that then we really are in trouble.

 

[linearb]

Reality is all there is folks.
If we don't accept that then we really are in trouble.

or, we might become President; 2018 is a crazy year!

 

[fishbone]

Reality is the toughest thing to accept.
Life frequently gives us such hateful predicaments.
Financial mayhem, often through no fault of our own.
The collapse of our careers.
The illnesses of our loved ones.
The despair when they leave us.
Our own catastrophic ill health issues, of which Tinnitus comes very high on the list, I would say at the top.

You don't need me to mention that it seeks to destroy our peace and quiet, our composure, our 'joie de vivre,' our careers, our relationships, our present, our future, and in a very real sense, our lives.

We had such good lives before, productive careers, great social lives with wonderful friends, a healthy sense of humour that amused both ourselves and others.
As we look back we seemingly had everything - or at least - most of what we needed.

And now this
effing-scumbag-vile-hateful-filthy disease.
I truly despise every second of it.
Some people say that it is not a disease.
More than anything else in this life it causes
'Dis - ease !!'

"Crying over spilt milk is completely unavoidable."

We can't help it.
We all do it.
I used to do it every second of every day.
I still do it - but not so much, or so often.
The trouble is - it makes everything very much worse.

We can never put the clock back, can we?
Reality is now - we can only go on from here,
from where we are now.
(Mummy can't make it all better.)

With this truly nasty condition, I attempt to find the best approaches I can to help me cope and go forward.

For me:
meditation,
pussycats,
nice walks,
good company,
pussycats,
good food,
...er....intimacy,
and pussycats
......etc.....

I wonder what if anything helps all you guys?

It may be tough, but YOU/WE have no choice. I still shake my head, at the reality that stares me in the face. I would have never imagined such a reality would have happened. Losing both parents, abandoned by my other family members, living with pain 24-7, living with an INTRUSIVE beast 24-7. Supporting myself. Reality may exist, but how you FACE reality and FACE your life is 100% UP TO YOU. No matter how brutal life is, we always have the power to make a CHOICE, make a decision.

Based on the life/cards i have been dealt in my life, I am proud to have lasted this long..It's amazing that I was able to find such a strength that I never knew existed. . I took the cards and played them, but I also bought a new deck of cards and played the game that I WANTED....

Life is scary, hard, HELL. We still need to get our own deck of cards......

 

[robHing]

I wonder what if anything helps all you guys?

I am a football fan.
When the football season is near.... the events will enrich my life.

 

[Jazzer]

First penned by James Howell in 1659.
He knew a thing - or three......

 

[Jazzer]

or, we might become President; 2018 is a crazy year!

(....think I might try for 'Queen of England'
- but keep it under your hat folks,
the ignominy if I fail......}}}}}

 

[coffee_girl]

I think reality is more beautiful than any fantasy. Perhaps it is my Buddhist culture but i don't think i can be sad on any given day when there is so much beauty in the world. I don't care for cgi, alterations, enhancements...the natural world is infinitely more beautiful and moving beyond anything.

Yesterday i was In the car and i realized the sun was setting on my left and the entire car was bathed in the rich glow of the evening. My friend was driving and her features were illuminated by the golden hour, i realized at that moment that she looked really wonderful with the sun combing its fingers through her hair...it felt majestic to see the world in this orange fiery glow.

I realized that i was witnessing the same sunset that my ancestors have seen...that the earliest creatures to have walked the earth would have experienced it too. It felt serene somehow, that this was all we had in common with the past. After billions of years, the sun is still here, setting and rising upon the hours.

It filled me with happiness because i felt that moment was just for me, a secret sunset all to myself...no-one knew it and most will just drive by it without a care. It felt really nice to be alive right then, if God exists...these are the moments i find him in. Because I know i am lucky enough to see it, these constant simple beauties surrounding me like serenades to life and natural beauty...even the blossoming of the rose is enough to make me stop and stare. It's life's way of saying: isn't this all worth it? The answer is always yes.

 

[Wolfears]

And now this
effing-scumbag-vile-hateful-filthy disease.
I truly despise every second of it.
Some people say that it is not a disease.

I think Tinnitus goes beyond disease...most self respecting diseases at this level of suffering have the decency to offer you peace at the end (death).
Usually the greater the suffering, the faster the death.

Tinnitus offers you no such courtesy, as the only thing it offers is brutal torture that never stops and never ends.
Mental suffering of this kind is worse than any physical pain..this is why this POS condition has to be the work of satan or some dark force, who's main goal is to torture people in the most horrifying way possible.

 

[robHing]

Yesterday i was In the car and i realized the sun was setting on my left and the entire car was bathed in the rich glow of the evening. My friend was driving and her features were illuminated by the golden hour, i realized at that moment that she looked really wonderful with the sun combing its fingers through her hair...it felt majestic to see the world in this orange fiery glow.

So beautiful ...

 

[Contrast]

I was making myself a tuna taco today and dropped it all over the floor and I literally cried knowing I wasted a good meal.

 

[coffee_girl]

OMG haha...life is a destroyed taco all over the floor =D

 

[glynis]

@Jazzer ,
It is tough for sure,
My ears went nuts after 8 hours on a coach down the motorway.
I.find at home putting my Alexa on and singing around the house gets my spirits up...
Love to everyone.
love glynis x

 

[Jazzer]

@Wolfears - speaking for myself, I have no belief in either god or satan, or any supernatural being.
Being born to a mentally ill mother, incapable of bonding with me, I brought myself up in desperately lonely isolation. I wanted to die.
I just about managed to keep myself going, and survive the pain.
I searched for god daily for twenty or so years, until finally deciding - 'Bollox to this!'
If god was real, he would have come.
Life is totally random.
Cause and effect.
Fairy stories - miracles - mumbo jumbo don't do it for me.
However, everybody should believe in something.....

 

[Jazzer]

My infancy taught me to accept reality.
The reality of my life was unbelievably sad,
but I had to accept it and try to keep going.
Gods - fairy godmothers - Father Christmas - did not figure in my world.

But I have to tell you,
......I had a loving pussycat.....xxxxx

 

[Wolfears]

@Wolfears - speaking for myself, I have no belief in either god or satan, or any supernatural being.
Being born to a mentally ill mother, incapable of bonding with me, I brought myself up in desperately lonely isolation. I wanted to die.
I just about managed to keep myself going, and survive the pain.
I searched for god daily for twenty or so years, until finally deciding - 'Bollox to this!'
If god was real, he would have come.
Life is totally random.
Cause and effect.
Fairy stories - miracles - mumbo jumbo don't do it for me.
However, everybody should believe in something.....

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Jazzer...I'm actually non religious too.
I write the word "Satan" so everyone can relate, but I do believe that there are some forces out there, which we do not quite understand.

 

[Lane]

I do believe that there are some forces out there, which we do not quite understand.

Nothing like severe intrusive t and/or h to make a person think a little more deeply about some of these forces! A friend sent the following to me, and I was able to get a chuckle out of it. It kinda struck a chord, though I myself don't really believe life is so random. -- Best!

 

[Jazzer]

Nothing like severe intrusive t and/or h to make a person think a little more deeply about some of these forces! A friend sent the following to me, and I was able to get a chuckle out of it. It kinda struck a chord, though I myself don't really believe life is so random. -- Best!

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A good cartoon.
Implicit in the Christian message is the blackmailing threat of hellfire, for those that reject, or in reality, cannot find god.
Fear, indoctrinated during infancy, is the biggest motivator for a religious belief IMHO.

- mind you, that outstretched hand does look full of ineffable love, I must admit.

I don't accept the sales pitch myself....

 

[coffee_girl]

Nothing like severe intrusive t and/or h to make a person think a little more deeply about some of these forces! A friend sent the following to me, and I was able to get a chuckle out of it. It kinda struck a chord, though I myself don't really believe life is so random. -- Best!

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This really reminded me of the Sims and how I sometimes would just torture my Sims for no reason. Hehe.

 

[Jazzer]

This really reminded me of the Sims and how I sometimes would just torture my Sims for no reason. Hehe.

"Sims ??"

 

[coffee_girl]

"Sims ??"

It's a video game, life simulator: The Sims 2