Tell Me it Ain't So

Discussion in 'Support' started by hartje5, Jul 12, 2016.

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    1. hartje5
      Wishful

      hartje5 Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      4 december 2015
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Verapamil, Flecainide, Apixaban, stress
      Yesterday I had my first counseling session with a lady who specializes in T. All I could hear from her is that I have to adapt my lifestyle give up things to accommodate T. Find new balance. But I can't do that. I have already gone through that process with my heart issues. Had to take a job with less stress, fewer hours, give up my ambitions. I am not able to run, walk long distances, swim or ride a bike, do any sports for that matter. My whole life these pas three years is about giving up things to adapt to a lifestyle with a heart condition. I did fine. I really did ok. I changed my eating habits, did only very healthy stuff, started yoga, regular physiotherapy, meditation, no drinking, early nights. All the sensible responsible stuff.

      And then last year I had the surgery which was supposed to make me better but made me worse. Medication that gave me awful T an H. And now she tells me I might have to give up my job? I might have to be happy with only being ok a few hours each day. I can't do that. I just cannot. I want to be a good mother to my children, like I used to. I want to be able to take care of my family. I want to be a good friend and not just somebody who needs care all the time. I don't want to suffer the rest of my life. I'm done giving in and accommodating. I just can't take it. All I do is lie in bed and on the couch, dragging myself through every day. Counting hours before I can take my Remeron so I can finally sleep.

      Tonight my youngest plays in a musical and I have to go there. I'm so proud of him, he has a leading role. I love him so. But I don't know how to do it. Next week my children and my husband are going away on holiday without me. I can't come. I'm too tired and too sick.

      Please, please, please, tell me this will get better and I will be able to live my life again.
       
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    2. hartje5
      Wishful

      hartje5 Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      4 december 2015
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Verapamil, Flecainide, Apixaban, stress
      I'm going to leave TT for a while. I don't know what it is that keeps me coming here but I think its an obsession and I want it to stop. Because I scare myself by reading all your stories and I probably scare some people myself. So bye for now. I which you all the best.
       
    3. glynis-harbron
      Feminine

      glynis-harbron Member Benefactor Hall of Fame Ambassador Team Awareness Team Research

      Location:
      England, Stoke-on-Trent
      Tinnitus Since:
      2004
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Meniere's Disease
      I hope you come back if need support with friends who understand.
      I know what it's like on holiday as I have time out in the hotel while my hubby goes looking around sometimes and need to rest up with my breathing being bad.
      Stay positive and focus on the things you can do and put no pressure on yourself .
      I'm sure you can find relaxing things to do with your children and love and cuddle them too....lots of love glynis
       
    4. Karel
      Stressed

      Karel Member

      Location:
      Netherlands
      Tinnitus Since:
      2013
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      acoustic trauma
      Good luck hartje, I hope you manage to find some relief somehow sooner or later!
       
    5. Paromita
      Cool

      Paromita Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      April 2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Not sure, maybe dental and facial nerve
      Take care hartje, it was nice talking to you....and please do come back. Thanks, Mita
       
    6. billie48
      Sunshine

      billie48 Member Benefactor Hall of Fame Ambassador Team Research

      Location:
      Vancouver, Canada
      Tinnitus Since:
      03/2009
      It is possible to get better. It is affirmative. Focus on the positive side of life. You can pull through this. Your T is still very new and your nerves are highly affected by the trauma of your T reaction. Give it time. T is irritable but not an end game. You can see that in all the success stories. Most posters suffered a lot initially but given time and with some help and support from others they do get better. You can be like them. Again, come back when you are ready and just read the positive stuffs in the stories. Take care. God bless.
       

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