Tinnitus' Impact on Social Life

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    1. MuffinMan
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      MuffinMan Member

      Location:
      Beirut, Lebanon
      Tinnitus Since:
      29/8/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      unknown, started the moment I woke up from a nightmare.
      Frankly getting an active social life was something I always struggled to have, I am very introvert, in fact I always suspected mild autism, now with tinnitus I feel my options are even far less.

      I am now scared to go to social events where music is loud, parties, weddings, cafe bars, cinemas, birthday, football matches .... even with earplugs some places seem to be too risky since my ears seem to be very sensitive. There are loud sounds almost in all social events.


      For instance, my girlfriend's friends sometimes invite her to such places, now I cannot always accompany her if the place is loud; luckily she doesn't like noisy places either.

      How do you cope socially with tinnitus?
       
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    2. Sam Bridge

      Sam Bridge Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      2012
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Loud music/gigs probably
      I’ve been to football games and I didn’t wear plugs. It was only moderately loud for a few moments when goals were scored. Cafes aren’t that loud?

      Do you have hyperacusis?
       
    3. AUTHOR
      AUTHOR
      MuffinMan
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      MuffinMan Member

      Location:
      Beirut, Lebanon
      Tinnitus Since:
      29/8/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      unknown, started the moment I woke up from a nightmare.
      Cafe bars, not Cafes.

      Frankly I am not sure.
       
    4. Bill Bauer
      No Mood

      Bill Bauer Member Hall of Fame

      Tinnitus Since:
      February, 2017
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Acoustic Trauma
      Instead of fighting my introverted nature - I fully embrace it. Not having a social life will solve all of your problems.
       
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    5. Emperor-Drax

      Emperor-Drax Member

      Location:
      Australia
      Tinnitus Since:
      10/06/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Loud bang on metal with a mallet
      I'm a public speaker, radio broadcaster, interviewer, and I attend a lot of conferences, networking sessions, corporate lunches and exhibitions. A social life is my job!
       
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    6. coffee_girl
      Innocent

      coffee_girl Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      All my life, but got worse 2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Noise induced / Concert
      I usually take someone along with me and sometimes I'll trick them into going in first. If she comes running out screaming with her ears to her head... I definitely know it's too loud :ROFL::ROFL:

      My social life hadn't changed much, instead of going out often, I host more. I love cooking so I focus on that as a positive to having T. Always been extroverted, I have a lot of energy and I'll take it out on others until they roll over and give up :ROFL::D:sneaky:
       
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    7. AUTHOR
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      MuffinMan
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      MuffinMan Member

      Location:
      Beirut, Lebanon
      Tinnitus Since:
      29/8/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      unknown, started the moment I woke up from a nightmare.
      I envy your energy, coffee girl.
       
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    8. Bill Bauer
      No Mood

      Bill Bauer Member Hall of Fame

      Tinnitus Since:
      February, 2017
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Acoustic Trauma
      In certain light, so am I (I teach). :)
       
    9. GregCA
      Jaded

      GregCA Member Benefactor Hall of Fame

      Tinnitus Since:
      03/2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Otosclerosis
      I think you'd know if you had it. Hyperacusis is hard to miss!
       
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    10. AUTHOR
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      MuffinMan
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      MuffinMan Member

      Location:
      Beirut, Lebanon
      Tinnitus Since:
      29/8/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      unknown, started the moment I woke up from a nightmare.

      I see, but probably I am being bit phobic of loud sounds lately, afraid of more hearing loss (and louder T).
       
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    11. GregCA
      Jaded

      GregCA Member Benefactor Hall of Fame

      Tinnitus Since:
      03/2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Otosclerosis
    12. Starthrower
      Wtf

      Starthrower Member Benefactor Ambassador Hall of Fame

      Tinnitus Since:
      January 2002
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Dental Surgery
      I have adjusted my social life because of tinnitus/hyperacusis. I don't understand why this is an issue with some people.

      It isn't that I am non-social though. I just do not go to movies or loud places for dining or go early before the crowds arrive. I have had to leave several dinners or parties because of noise levels.

      I understand for single people that are in their twenties though when friends are still going out without a care in the world. That has to be difficult.

      I am not "afraid". I just know the consequences of over exposure. So I find my comfortable medium for socializing with people.
       
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    13. IvanRus

      IvanRus Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      04/2017
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      ototoxicity
      @Bill Bauer, can you write to me in a private message, how did you manage to convert your introversion into profit and earnings? I consider my introversion a negative quality.

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      In general, social life faded.

      I love football and I love to watch football in the stadium. Now I no longer do this.

      I dreamed of being in Turkey, in Istanbul, at the loudest and fanned stadium of Besiktas. Now I hardly want to get there.

      Discos, Loud bars, Loud rock concerts - all this has ceased to be part of my life.

      Also a relationship with the female sex.

      I dreamed of building a sauna and a house with my own hands. Now it is postponed indefinitely - a lot of knocking, cutting and other loud sounds.
       
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    14. another sean
      Studious

      another sean Member Benefactor Ambassador Advocate

      Location:
      Los Angeles
      Tinnitus Since:
      2015
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Long duration of low audio
      what's a social life? :ROFL:.......:cry:
       
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    15. AUTHOR
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      MuffinMan
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      MuffinMan Member

      Location:
      Beirut, Lebanon
      Tinnitus Since:
      29/8/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      unknown, started the moment I woke up from a nightmare.
      I understand that, I am in a relationship stat started before T... but I don’t I think I would have the motivation to seek for one if i was totally single.
       
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    16. JohnAdams
      Festive

      JohnAdams Member Benefactor Hall of Fame

      Location:
      Vatican
      Tinnitus Since:
      May 1st 2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Aspirin Toxicity/Possibly Noise
      Thankfully I didnt have a social life to lose.
       
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    17. Striveon

      Striveon Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      08/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Unknown
      Sadly, I've isolated from friends, hard time getting through college (I'm smart but T has shattered my concentration) and no interest in meeting anyone at all. Also, I'm scared of loud places, I just feel like it'll make my hearing damage and T worse. I feel trapped and discouraged for anything. I'm just trying to work on my mental health with T and stick to my family's support and company (all I need right now).
       
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    18. AUTHOR
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      MuffinMan
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      MuffinMan Member

      Location:
      Beirut, Lebanon
      Tinnitus Since:
      29/8/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      unknown, started the moment I woke up from a nightmare.
      ^ I can imagine T would make dating the opposite sex very hard too.

      Frankly, a T makes a guy sounds very boring, imagine you are explaining to your date that you can never go to concerts, parties, cinemas, and all kinds of loud music events because of a condition that she probably never heard of and that makes ‘sounds in the head’? You have to be Ryan Golsing lookalike and have a Trump confidence in order to make her overlook that.

      Hell, in case of going into a more serious relationship, just imagine telling her that you can never have a a wedding party, which are traditionally very loud - something that she probably wanted it since ever. Seriously why anyone would stick to this while there are plenty others.
       
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    19. Striveon

      Striveon Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      08/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Unknown
      I am a female and I think the same way of the opposite sex. What guy would want to date a female that constantly has to wear earplugs, can't listen to loud music on long drives, can't go family parties with him, concerts, movie theatre, etc. It's hard for everyone dealing with T because everyone is out living a normal life without precautions, while there we are with T, paranoid it'll get worse. They'll probably want to date people without T.. I see how it's funner anyways and it sucks...
       
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    20. AUTHOR
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      MuffinMan
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      MuffinMan Member

      Location:
      Beirut, Lebanon
      Tinnitus Since:
      29/8/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      unknown, started the moment I woke up from a nightmare.

      Yeah, unless they fall madly in love with you at first sight which happens in movies only, most people would want to date issues-free people.

      Only someone with T like us will understand but it’s so unlikely to find a compatible match with T at the same time.
       
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    21. Emperor-Drax

      Emperor-Drax Member

      Location:
      Australia
      Tinnitus Since:
      10/06/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Loud bang on metal with a mallet
      Well... bwahahahaha!

      This post amuses me a lot because a girl who I'd been dating in early 2016 (way before my initial ear incident in June this year) dumped my arse hard straight after her friend's wedding party she invited me to because... I wore earplugs.

      My hearing was perfectly fine, but after attending a few previous wedding receptions in the past, I was no stranger to how damn loud they could get. So I decided to wear a set of earplugs during the event. I told her prior that I'd be doing this, but this was such a foreign concept to her, she protested like hell, looked at me like I was an alien during the event, and two days later after not hearing a word from her, she texted me saying she doesn't want to see me anymore, that it was "effeminate" to worry about my ears, and that she wanted a "manly man".

      Looking back, I think I was fanning the flames a bit (trolling her) by wearing the earplugs just to gauge how she'd react to it, but she sure showed her true colours that night and a few days afterward.
       
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    22. AUTHOR
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      MuffinMan
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      MuffinMan Member

      Location:
      Beirut, Lebanon
      Tinnitus Since:
      29/8/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      unknown, started the moment I woke up from a nightmare.
      Man, this is funny and very sad too.

      I wonder if there's subtle earplugs out there in the market where no one can notice them.
       
    23. Emperor-Drax

      Emperor-Drax Member

      Location:
      Australia
      Tinnitus Since:
      10/06/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Loud bang on metal with a mallet
      I wore Mack's ear plugs, which are flesh-toned, so nobody else would have seen them. I think this girl was a bit mad anyway - deeply concerned about how her friends would view her, and very much in the mindset that her "man" must be the type who would recklessly sacrifice himself for her sake. A bit of a zealous romantic, she was, and a guy with earplugs contradicted that idealised vision.
       
    24. AUTHOR
      AUTHOR
      MuffinMan
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      MuffinMan Member

      Location:
      Beirut, Lebanon
      Tinnitus Since:
      29/8/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      unknown, started the moment I woke up from a nightmare.
      Yeah, sadly a lot of people care too much of the partner's "image" in front of friends - that's not just T related problem. Probably 50% of relationship problems comes from that.
       
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    25. Wolfears

      Wolfears Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      Jan 20/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Most likely accoustic trauma
      Again, I wish I had the powers to hand out a crippling intrusive tinnitus "award" to someone who really deserves it for couple of months at least.
      That girl would have be a prime candidate.
       
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    26. Striveon

      Striveon Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      08/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Unknown
      That's the sad part, they fall at first sight but me myself, I don't feel confident anymore. The thought of having to tell them I have a noise, is sad :/ they will only feel pitty perhaps. The thought that I have T, makes me avoid people. & all I'm rooting for is a cure that will free us all. Only then, we will be back to our normal self. Plus, it can still go away on its own! You never know!
       
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    27. Striveon

      Striveon Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      08/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Unknown
      That's good! You dodged a bullet! You saw her true colors, it only showed you how 'supportive' she would have been in the future, clearly not at all!
       
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    28. Striveon

      Striveon Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      08/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Unknown
      That would be perfect!... sadly it's not possible!
       
    29. Emperor-Drax

      Emperor-Drax Member

      Location:
      Australia
      Tinnitus Since:
      10/06/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Loud bang on metal with a mallet
      It might of some comfort that after we broke up, she found some other poor schmuck, who stuck with her and proposed to her! But after 18 months, allegedly he strangled her and the engagement was called off. Facebook gave me a great show with all that violent melodrama she seemed to attract.
       
    30. Wolfears

      Wolfears Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      Jan 20/2018
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Most likely accoustic trauma
      Serves her right.
       
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