“Tinnitus Truths”

When we have tinnitus we become obsessed with our internal head noise. We check its volume against any gadget we might have - usually every morning. This is perfectly natural with this awful condition. Inevitable I’d say.

The trouble is that by obsessing with the silence we have now lost, and the eternal noise we have been cursed with, it is anathema to our peace of mind, and our experience of life in general.

We know that we cannot have our silence back - we cannot even have ‘quiet.’
But we can still achieve peace, if we can come to believe in the concept of ‘stillness.’
Having accepted this concept, we can then come to access it in our meditation.
We can come to:

‘Rest in the stillness beneath the mental noise.’

 

A regular practice of meditation will not cure tinnitus.

But - it can make it bearable, liveable, even forgettable for long periods of time.
Please try it folks...x

Dave
Jazzer

 

“With meditation . . .



. . . becomes possible”

 

Hi, @Jazzer.

How are you these days? How are the kitties?
Sending you a warm hug.

Once

 

Well I am devastated at the loss of my sweetheart of course but trying to accept it, as I must.

Percy wakes me up every morning which is nice.

Thank you for thinking of me Once. ❤️❤️

 

We cannot block negative thoughts.
But we can prevent constantly overthinking them.
Do not engage with them.
Allow such thoughts to come in,
and allow them to pass away.
Dwell on nothing.

 

@Jazzer, ahhh such a cutie, that Percy! They sure give unconditional love.

I'm sorry that you're hurting, Jazz. It must be difficult missing her so much.
I hope the pain eases a bit for you with time, my friend.

 

Oh ‘Once’ when you are suddenly faced with living alone it is really lovely when somebody thinks of you and makes contact.

Yes - as you say - there are times in every day when the tears just flow.

I don’t try to stop them - I just return to my favourite photo of her and remind myself of the love I see in her eyes for me.

Grief must give way to gratitude.

Sylvie would want me to succeed, to look after the children, grandchildren, and of course the pussycats.

My love for her was immense.

Life is now so daunting.

I belong to a philosophy school.

Epictetus said:
“The greater the difficulty, the more glory in surmounting it.”

I would like Sylvie to be proud of me,
Love
Dave xx
Jazzer

 

This is so true and yet not many people practice this. Life gets so busy that we lose touch...

Many times I have felt alone and yet I have family and friends around me. That's also sad.

I do the same thing when I miss my sweet niece. I have my favorite picture of her in my living room and I just look at it and smile and think of the beautiful times we spent together... and of course I cry too. It's ok to cry.

How often do you get to see your kids and grandkids?

Is there any particular hobby that you enjoy? Maybe you should start crocheting.

She was and will always be.

 

Yes I have two wonderful daughters and a son, who all love me so much and sixteen grandchildren - Sylvie had three children as well so each couple had 2 or 3 nippers.

I am making a real effort to get out and meet people. I enrolled at a philosophy school a month ago, and this subject enthralls me.

Obviously I cannot play my jazz any more because of tinnitus, but I have started leading a group in Jazz Appreciation for the U3A (University of the Third Age.)

I was quite concerned that I might ‘crack up’ in front of an audience but actually I was fine.

My childhood was impossibly painful, but I survived it - I should be able to survive this also ‘Once.’

Thank you so much for your kind words about Sylvie.

Dave
xxx

 

‘Nobody deserves tinnitus - not you - not me - nobody. But of course, through some freak of nature, we all have it.
It has taken our ‘quiet’ it has taken our silence.
But it does not have to take out peace of mind.’

A good self affirmation:

 

You are truly blessed.

This is good, Jazz. I hope you make good friends and enjoy your class.

 

@Jazzer, did you write this? It’s so brilliant and incredible true! x x x

 

Yes I did Steph.
I meditate daily without fail.
Do not consciously breath.
Ask your tummy to breath for you.
Do not control your breathing.
Let it do what it wants, and just observe it.
I always reach stillness and become unaware of my tinnitus.
I also experiment with various mantras.
——————————————————-
Here is an interesting thought Steph.
‘Tell yourself that your tinnitus is a jet engine,” just one time - and you will believe it.
Life will be a nightmare.
—————————————
Tell yourself repeatedly that
“Tinnitus is just a whisper,” a few times a day, even if you don’t actually believe it, and you will find, before long, that much of the day you will be unaware of it.
Most of the time, it will become just a whisper.

Best Wishes
Dave xx

 

Tinnitus Truth.

Tinnitus sucks big hairy balls, and there is bugger all you can do about it.
So, buckle up because you’re in for a rough ride.

Also, every loud sound will terrify you.

My words of wisdom for the day.

 

Lighten up @Steph1710

Even though there might not be something you could do directly with tinnitus and hyperacusis that make it go, we can, to a certain degree, choose our emotional response to it. Which in turn will make it easier to cope with.

That doesn't mean that some days may and will be so dark that we can't find that inner strength not to react negatively. It's human to do so...

...but just like @Jazzer pointed out, meditation and mindfulness, in many forms, can be a powerful tool when it comes to work with our emotional response.

Truth is, tinnitus is difficult for all of us, and it's an obstacle non of us wants. Giving the obstacles less focus is a life long practice - but there more you practice, the better you get.

 

Rough days, @Steph1710?

 

It was supposed to be funny. Haha.

I have always managed my tinnitus and hyperacusis really well. It’s never stopped me doing anything.

I was poking fun at all the profound statements that are made, by trying to make a really stupid one.

It was a joke post - but thanks for the advice anyway. Much appreciated.

I should add, I read this thread because I do really appreciate people posting words of wisdom. Sometimes we all need to hear them.

I was just reading through the thread yesterday, and thought I can’t come up with anything as profound as some members, so I came up with a silly one.

 

“Sitting meditation is very healing. We realize we can just be with whatever is within us–our pain, anger, and irritation, or our joy, love, and peace. We are with whatever is there without being carried away by it.

Let it come, let it stay, then let it go. No need to push, to oppress, or to pretend our thoughts are not there. Observe the thoughts and images of our mind with an accepting and loving eye. We are free to be still and calm despite the storms that might arise in us...” ❤️
-Thich Nhat Hanh

“There is stillness beneath the mental noise.”
-Eckhart Tolle