Member- Oct 18, 2014
- 924
- Tinnitus Since
- 09/2008
- Cause of Tinnitus
- Multi-factorial
Long story cut short: i got a pile of papers in the mailbox last week. My parents are suing me, they want to take the custody of my child and change his domicile.
I have not seen my son in the past three months.
Last time i spoke with my son it was January, when we were planning together my kidnapping him from that house. When my father heard and realised what we are talking about, he cut the conversation and that was the last time i got to speak with my son. When my father took him he broke the article 307 from the Penal Code, cause i had the custody rights.
I hear now, from my father, that my son is very ill.
He forbids me to talk to him. He says that i cannot talk to him because "he cannot reason now". This happened yesterday. I do not know what "he cannot reason/think now" is supposed to mean. I am very worried.
I bet that my son does not know about what my father intends to do (to get the custody rights, and what the consequences of that would be). I am sure that if he knew he would not agree. I suspect that my father intends to make it in such a way that my son would not appear in court. He will probably say that my son is sick and he cannot come to court, but he wants to stay with them.
That would be against the law, to give the custody rights to my father, while the child's opinion is not heard. Or maybe he intends to bring him to court, counting on the fact that if i see my son only then, in court, by that time he will finish the brainwashing that he has done with my son, and my son, who gets fearful and shy in court (we had a dispute in court before. Then the judge called my son near him, and they had a conversation i coud not hear, the court was noisy and they were speaking softly. I do not know what answers my son gave, but the judge decided then in my favour.
I do not know what may happen now.
When i mentioned to the agents of Child "protection" agency that my father does not answer the phone, they said that this is mere "problem of communication".
This is ABUSE, not "problem of communication".
My son has Aspergerger's syndrome. He needs me more than anybody.
My father is 82, and he is paranoid, violent, a lying bastard. He thinks he can lie to the autborities (police, child protection agency, schoold teachers), and so far he was succesful (only with the judge he was not so succesfull).
To be honest, i am afraid.
What he wants to use, to get the custody of my child?
Last year my tinnitus spiked. It got so bad, i was desperate. I could not find my way out of that hell. The tinnitus got so loud. ..
On sept 20th i wrote to Markku that i am desperate, because of the increase in volume.
@Markku, do you remember?
I got out of that spike with some medication, but i remained absolutely in shock about the spike that i had. I was in my 9th year of tinnitus, and i thought i went through all the levels of hell that were possible to experience on earth. I was wrong. There was another level. Because my tinnitus got so bad, (it worsened because of a huge huge huge stress) that i returned to the forum. I think on a couple of posts i mentioned my spike.
I remained really "shaken" about what happened to me.
Oh, by the way, when i told my father about the spike, he couldn't care less. He pretended he does not hear. Complete indiference!
It was hard to pick myself up from what happened, and all the year 2017 was a huge stress, it was a very bad year for me.
My father was coming to my house daily, to visit my son.
He noticed that the apartment got messy. He arranged with the Child "protection" Agency to pay me a "random" visit, and to make believe that he did not speak with them, that it is a visit unrelated to him. Gina Popescu, while speaking to me, she turned herself in, against her will, that she had spoken with my father.
When they began to take pictures of the boy's room (there were some towels thrown on a chair, other towels hanging from the handle of a bike that was supposed to be in the balcony, things like that, and they took pictures of two desks that i have many many things on. To be honest, i do not even know where to put so many things, i do not have the space. On top of one dressing that she took a picture of, i had many many books. They were books that i bought either for my son, or books that i bought trying to get cured of tinnitus (alternative medicine, mostly, you know the genre, "tetha healing" and the likes. Desperate, sick people are able to buy anything that promises them a hope for healing, for the right price).
I tried to explain that i was very sick with the tinnitus. I tried to speak, but they did not want to listen. Gina Popescu is a "psychologist", amazingly, (i was very surprised when i saw that above her signature) but she does not let people speak about their problems and she changes the subject when i speak about something that is not conveniant to her intentions.
Anyway, i could not tell her that it was because of my tinnitus that i could not clean for days on row (she interrupted me when i tried to speak, did not let me continue my sentence, only took some pictures. She jumped on the couch that my son was sleeping on (he was sleeping when she came, and she told me to turn the lights on, because "he is not sleeping", but the lights hurt his eyes. She made a picture with herself and my son, sitting next to him and making a "selfie". My son likes to sleep without shirt, only pijama pants. He is almost 17. I wouldn't have dared to sit next to him while he does not have a shirt on. But she did. I see that that particular picture she did not put in the file. That picture magically disappeared. I think that what she did was unappropiate.
She told him that she brought him another "blonde", not the "blonde that she brought the year before, but another blonde". Honestly, my son couodn't care less about the colour in which the agents of Child "Protection Agency dye their hair. Very unappropiate, in my opinion. Maybe it did not cross their minds that my son probably likes girls of his age, and they are a bit old for him, to give a shit about the colour of their hair dye? My son told me that in the past the agents never listened to him , they sent him to another room while they were speaking with my mother . Whatever...
My son is very understanding about my tinnitus and i expressed my regrets that i am not in shape to do the cleaning, but chances are that i will get better, and i will clean then. He understood the situation. He really did. He is a very good child.
I remained behind with the cleaning because of very bad tinnitus, but they do not care about that.
I put a poll above regarding this issue.
For you, sufferers with loud tinnitus, i ask you: where you ever so sick that you could not clean?
..or do something else that you had to do?
Were you ever debilitated by your tinnitus?
I cannot believe that this is happening to me. I am having a health problem and, instead of being helped, they intend to take the child away from me, a child that was waiting with patience for me to get better and clean, maybe even together, cause we had had the conversation about this issue.
On the file it is prepared for taking my custody rights, there is not a single mentioning that i have (sometimes severe) tinnitus. They did not find this to be "relevant". A form of lying is not to tell the whole truth, to omit certain things, on purpose, like my parents and the agents did.
To take somebody's child from him/her because of a consequence of a health problem, like severe tinnitus, it is unbelievable to me. Outrageous! I hope this will not happen.
I intend to show the judge the result of the poll (if i see that other members were ever in this situation, of course).
Please do not lie in my favour. This is for the Court, "the truth and nothing but the truth".
Answer "yes" only if the REAL answer is "yes".
Thank you.
I have not seen my son in the past three months.
Last time i spoke with my son it was January, when we were planning together my kidnapping him from that house. When my father heard and realised what we are talking about, he cut the conversation and that was the last time i got to speak with my son. When my father took him he broke the article 307 from the Penal Code, cause i had the custody rights.
I hear now, from my father, that my son is very ill.
He forbids me to talk to him. He says that i cannot talk to him because "he cannot reason now". This happened yesterday. I do not know what "he cannot reason/think now" is supposed to mean. I am very worried.
I bet that my son does not know about what my father intends to do (to get the custody rights, and what the consequences of that would be). I am sure that if he knew he would not agree. I suspect that my father intends to make it in such a way that my son would not appear in court. He will probably say that my son is sick and he cannot come to court, but he wants to stay with them.
That would be against the law, to give the custody rights to my father, while the child's opinion is not heard. Or maybe he intends to bring him to court, counting on the fact that if i see my son only then, in court, by that time he will finish the brainwashing that he has done with my son, and my son, who gets fearful and shy in court (we had a dispute in court before. Then the judge called my son near him, and they had a conversation i coud not hear, the court was noisy and they were speaking softly. I do not know what answers my son gave, but the judge decided then in my favour.
I do not know what may happen now.
When i mentioned to the agents of Child "protection" agency that my father does not answer the phone, they said that this is mere "problem of communication".
This is ABUSE, not "problem of communication".
My son has Aspergerger's syndrome. He needs me more than anybody.
My father is 82, and he is paranoid, violent, a lying bastard. He thinks he can lie to the autborities (police, child protection agency, schoold teachers), and so far he was succesful (only with the judge he was not so succesfull).
To be honest, i am afraid.
What he wants to use, to get the custody of my child?
Last year my tinnitus spiked. It got so bad, i was desperate. I could not find my way out of that hell. The tinnitus got so loud. ..
On sept 20th i wrote to Markku that i am desperate, because of the increase in volume.
@Markku, do you remember?
I got out of that spike with some medication, but i remained absolutely in shock about the spike that i had. I was in my 9th year of tinnitus, and i thought i went through all the levels of hell that were possible to experience on earth. I was wrong. There was another level. Because my tinnitus got so bad, (it worsened because of a huge huge huge stress) that i returned to the forum. I think on a couple of posts i mentioned my spike.
I remained really "shaken" about what happened to me.
Oh, by the way, when i told my father about the spike, he couldn't care less. He pretended he does not hear. Complete indiference!
It was hard to pick myself up from what happened, and all the year 2017 was a huge stress, it was a very bad year for me.
My father was coming to my house daily, to visit my son.
He noticed that the apartment got messy. He arranged with the Child "protection" Agency to pay me a "random" visit, and to make believe that he did not speak with them, that it is a visit unrelated to him. Gina Popescu, while speaking to me, she turned herself in, against her will, that she had spoken with my father.
When they began to take pictures of the boy's room (there were some towels thrown on a chair, other towels hanging from the handle of a bike that was supposed to be in the balcony, things like that, and they took pictures of two desks that i have many many things on. To be honest, i do not even know where to put so many things, i do not have the space. On top of one dressing that she took a picture of, i had many many books. They were books that i bought either for my son, or books that i bought trying to get cured of tinnitus (alternative medicine, mostly, you know the genre, "tetha healing" and the likes. Desperate, sick people are able to buy anything that promises them a hope for healing, for the right price).
I tried to explain that i was very sick with the tinnitus. I tried to speak, but they did not want to listen. Gina Popescu is a "psychologist", amazingly, (i was very surprised when i saw that above her signature) but she does not let people speak about their problems and she changes the subject when i speak about something that is not conveniant to her intentions.
Anyway, i could not tell her that it was because of my tinnitus that i could not clean for days on row (she interrupted me when i tried to speak, did not let me continue my sentence, only took some pictures. She jumped on the couch that my son was sleeping on (he was sleeping when she came, and she told me to turn the lights on, because "he is not sleeping", but the lights hurt his eyes. She made a picture with herself and my son, sitting next to him and making a "selfie". My son likes to sleep without shirt, only pijama pants. He is almost 17. I wouldn't have dared to sit next to him while he does not have a shirt on. But she did. I see that that particular picture she did not put in the file. That picture magically disappeared. I think that what she did was unappropiate.
She told him that she brought him another "blonde", not the "blonde that she brought the year before, but another blonde". Honestly, my son couodn't care less about the colour in which the agents of Child "Protection Agency dye their hair. Very unappropiate, in my opinion. Maybe it did not cross their minds that my son probably likes girls of his age, and they are a bit old for him, to give a shit about the colour of their hair dye? My son told me that in the past the agents never listened to him , they sent him to another room while they were speaking with my mother . Whatever...
My son is very understanding about my tinnitus and i expressed my regrets that i am not in shape to do the cleaning, but chances are that i will get better, and i will clean then. He understood the situation. He really did. He is a very good child.
I remained behind with the cleaning because of very bad tinnitus, but they do not care about that.
I put a poll above regarding this issue.
For you, sufferers with loud tinnitus, i ask you: where you ever so sick that you could not clean?
..or do something else that you had to do?
Were you ever debilitated by your tinnitus?
I cannot believe that this is happening to me. I am having a health problem and, instead of being helped, they intend to take the child away from me, a child that was waiting with patience for me to get better and clean, maybe even together, cause we had had the conversation about this issue.
On the file it is prepared for taking my custody rights, there is not a single mentioning that i have (sometimes severe) tinnitus. They did not find this to be "relevant". A form of lying is not to tell the whole truth, to omit certain things, on purpose, like my parents and the agents did.
To take somebody's child from him/her because of a consequence of a health problem, like severe tinnitus, it is unbelievable to me. Outrageous! I hope this will not happen.
I intend to show the judge the result of the poll (if i see that other members were ever in this situation, of course).
Please do not lie in my favour. This is for the Court, "the truth and nothing but the truth".
Answer "yes" only if the REAL answer is "yes".
Thank you.
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