Please Provide Perspective on Tinnitus Spiking Easily — Pivotal Job Decision

[Aaron91]

Lol - the answer is yes to all 5 of your questions. I appreciate you balancing the perspective.

EDIT:
Also my response did nothing to address your situation - I'm really sorry this has happened to you. I hope we all can recover to a state of normalcy, with time or medical assistance.

Thank you. Likewise I'm sorry you have also joined this club none of us ever asked to become part of. What did you decide in the end?

 

[GBB]

Thank you. Likewise I'm sorry you have also joined this club none of us ever asked to become part of. What did you decide in the end?

I decided not to move forward with the position. It might be possible with lots of suffering but the answer to my problems right now is not more money.

 

[Ed209]

I decided not to move forward with the position. It might be possible with lots of suffering but the answer to my problems right now is not more money.

Deep down, I think you always knew this.

 

[GBB]

Deep down, I think you always knew this.

I will regret not being able to do it, but not my decision to recognize my suffering and prioritize my health; the opportunity was taken from me, in the end it was hardly a choice at all.

 

[DavidTyl]

I decided not to move forward with the position. It might be possible with lots of suffering but the answer to my problems right now is not more money.

 

[Zugzug]

I decided not to move forward with the position. It might be possible with lots of suffering but the answer to my problems right now is not more money.

For what it's worth, here's what happened to me. I fought tooth and nail for the job I wanted -- with chronic illness. I ended up getting it, bought a house, and was ready to start. My chronic illness flared up and spread to my inner ears, giving me severe, disabling hyperacusis. I had to suspend starting my job.

Flash forward 3 months and I was experiencing an upswing (still had severe hyperacusis though). I met with my employer (who totally understood my position) and they gave me the choice between not working and working part-time.

The old me, the one that was ambitious, wanted me to take the part-time work in hopes of keeping my job. The rational me knew that my situation was highly unstable. I went with not working.

Sure enough, within a few weeks, my disease increased again, validating my decision. From the sounds of it, you do not appear to be in a position to seek out a major promotion at work. It's frustrating though because the old you wanted it so bad. It sucks -- it's like admitting to yourself how bad things really are.

Then again, you appear to have money, and thanks to my wife, I do too. We are lucky that this is a pride issue and not a "go hungry" issue.

 

[aot]

• Will your job involve frequent phone or video calls, or frequent exposure to other sounds - industrial, musical or otherwise?

Respectfully, isn't that almost every job in the world, though?

 

[GBB]

For what it's worth, here's what happened to me. I fought tooth and nail for the job I wanted -- with chronic illness. I ended up getting it, bought a house, and was ready to start. My chronic illness flared up and spread to my inner ears, giving me severe, disabling hyperacusis. I had to suspend starting my job.

Flash forward 3 months and I was experiencing an upswing (still had severe hyperacusis though). I met with my employer (who totally understood my position) and they gave me the choice between not working and working part-time.

The old me, the one that was ambitious, wanted me to take the part-time work in hopes of keeping my job. The rational me knew that my situation was highly unstable. I went with not working.

Sure enough, within a few weeks, my disease increased again, validating my decision. From the sounds of it, you do not appear to be in a position to seek out a major promotion at work. It's frustrating though because the old you wanted it so bad. It sucks -- it's like admitting to yourself how bad things really are.

Then again, you appear to have money, and thanks to my wife, I do too. We are lucky that this is a pride issue and not a "go hungry" issue.

I'm sorry to hear something similar happened to you, though I could infer based on your condition it must have been and remains "tough" (haha, what an understatement). I have savings but it is primarily a factor of living at home - I'm not well equipped right now to live independently in a high cost of living city, which this role would have afforded me. So for the present although it is not a question of hunger, as with all of us, I've still got pretty big problems.

 

[Poseidon65]

Sorry it came to this.

Specific opportunities aside, I hope that in time, your health is such that you feel ready for a big job again.

 

[Brian Newman]

Take the job lmao. I don't want to put this the wrong way, but I have the most fearful job here, working in a bike shop is the scariest thing when you have tinnitus. Any random moment, boom! You just hear the mechanic go ooops I blew up another tire. Lmao I'm literally screwed because I have been working here my whole life and plan to take it over because it's my parents' company. If I wore earplugs, I couldn't hear the customers and they would get upset. At least nobody here has to deal with random shotgun blasts at any moment, it's horrible.

Tomorrow when I go back to work I'm wearing hearing protection. I don't care anymore. Your ears are the most important thing. So unless you are in a bike shop, using crazy noisy power tools, a cop, or a shooting instructor, take the job.

 

[GBB]

Take the job lmao. I don't want to put this the wrong way, but I have the most fearful job here, working in a bike shop is the scariest thing when you have tinnitus. Any random moment, boom! You just hear the mechanic go ooops I blew up another tire. Lmao I'm literally screwed because I have been working here my whole life and plan to take it over because it's my parents' company. If I wore earplugs, I couldn't hear the customers and they would get upset. At least nobody here has to deal with random shotgun blasts at any moment, it's horrible.

Tomorrow when I go back to work I'm wearing hearing protection. I don't care anymore. Your ears are the most important thing. So unless you are in a bike shop, using crazy noisy power tools, a cop, or a shooting instructor, take the job.

I already turned it down.

 

[weab00]

A lot of people in this thread are conflating tinnitus and hyperacusis. Working with hyperacusis is a different beast entirely to working with (non-reactive) tinnitus.

 

[GBB]

A lot of people in this thread are conflating tinnitus and hyperacusis. Working with hyperacusis is a different beast entirely to working with (non-reactive) tinnitus.

Ya, if my tinnitus didn't react to things I'd probably not even be on this site to be honest. I'd just put on music or an air purifier and call it a day.

 

[cruise]

@GBB, did you start the job? Please give us an update!