"They're Just Sounds"

Discussion in 'Support' started by Hil, Apr 1, 2016.

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    1. Hil

      Hil Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      11/2015
      When I express distress with my tinnitus, someone close to me says, "they're just sounds. Why do you get so upset?" Incidentally, he has tinnitus, too, but it is one constant sound that doesn't change.

      What do you think about the statement "they're just sounds?" How I wish I could view it like that. Maybe I can, I don't know.
       
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    2. glynis-harbron
      Feminine

      glynis-harbron Member Benefactor Hall of Fame Ambassador Team Awareness Team Research

      Location:
      England, Stoke-on-Trent
      Tinnitus Since:
      2004
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Meniere's Disease
      Sounds that cause stress and torture till you adapt to it or calm down is hard for others without tinnitus to understand and don't realise it affects you socially,emotionally and physically and lack of sleep and low concentration and brain fog ....Wow we have a blinking lot to deal with in the early months.

      Distress is what tinnitus causes but with help and support It can be turned around and life with tinnitus does get better....lots of love glynis
       
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    3. steffievdboom

      steffievdboom Member

      IT is true they are just sounds... You Should really ask yourself what bothers you so much.. The sounds... Or... Your thoughts About the sounds.... My thoughts are much worse than the sound is ;)
       
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    4. brody24

      brody24 Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      12/2002
      1. In general, I try not to discuss T with anyone. A key aspect of habituation is allowing your mind to wander away from it and not focusing on it/reading about it. My parents saw how miserable I was with my T after my ear surgery that made it so bad. They saw the depression and anxiety and, like any concerned parents, they asked how the T was and how I was doing. Once I was ready to start the road to recovery, I asked them to not ask me about it unless I myself brought it up. And they respected my wish. They never speak of it and it goes a long way to keeping my mind away from it.

      2. Sort of a corollary to the above, but other people just can't understand what you are going through. Its a lose-lose to even bother explaining. Either they are totally in the dark and downplaying it, or, if you somehow convey to them how bad it is, you get a pity/sympathy that you may not want. I made the mistake of playing some T sound file for my wife. And she heard it, put her hand over her mouth, and said it would drive her crazy and that she was so sorry. I immediately regretted playing it for her.

      3. In the end, it really is just a sound. It took me months to realize that it wasn't the sound itself keeping me up at night or giving me anxiety. It was my emotional reaction to the sound that was having the truly negative effects. Over time, I was able to separate the two (i.e. consciously noticing the sound didn't immediately lead to a negative emotional reaction). And that was the first true step toward habituation. I'm not fully there yet, but I'm on the right track.
       
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    5. RaZaH
      Not amused

      RaZaH Member Benefactor Team Tech

      Location:
      Reykjavík, Iceland
      Tinnitus Since:
      2012/04
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Benzo + loud noise
      Well, for me it quite literally is NOT the sound as such that bothers me , its the buzzing sensation in my brain .
      So , yeah ..not Just a sound.

      Also , a sound is not just a sound ...it depends on how loud , what frequency , how many frequencies Etc.

      I think that this someone is assuming that you both have the same tinnitus which is technically impossible to begin with ..so.
       
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    6. Cheza
      Wishful

      Cheza Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Oregon
      Tinnitus Since:
      04/2014
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Barking dogs/stress
      Here are some sounds:

      Shattering glass
      Toddler screaming
      Train brakes
      Jet engines
      Vehicles colliding
      Keys jangling
      Nails on a blackboard
      Pipes banging together
      Swords clashing
      Blue jay squawking
      Dog whistle
      Emergency siren

      Yes, they're "sounds." Ask your friend if he would like to listen to any of them every day, all day, for months and years on end. Any sound is "just a sound" unless it's discordant and persistent. Everyone has a tolerance threshold; it's just a matter of degree.

      Water is "just water," but the Chinese developed a way of turning water into torture, one drop at a time.

      Edit to add: BTA video, "Sounds of Tinnitus." Skip the intro and go straight to 0:49.

      British Tinnitus Association - Sounds of Tinnitus
       
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    7. Sailboardman
      Frustrated

      Sailboardman Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Florida
      Tinnitus Since:
      04/21/2014
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Sensorineural hearing loss right ear.
      Yeah, they're just sounds, where sounds shouldn't be.
       
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    8. valeri

      valeri Member Benefactor Team Awareness

      Location:
      Australia
      Tinnitus Since:
      09/2011
      Is your buzzing anything like the second sound in the video cheza posted?
       
    9. PaulBe

      PaulBe Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Cairns
      Tinnitus Since:
      11/2013
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Probably sound, though never proven
      Yes. Its more than just a sound isn't it. it borders on the tactile.
       
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    10. steffievdboom

      steffievdboom Member

      Sorry to hear this.. Also have this bezing sensation since a couple of days and yes iT is annoying. I have Also days that i 'suffer' a lot.. But really your OWN state of mind can really make you cope better.
      Take care all of you. Was not my intention to hurt anyone...
      Razah: check your blood pressure... Mind is high and i guess that is where the buzzing feeling comes from...
       
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    11. steffievdboom

      steffievdboom Member

      Buzzing sensation i mean
       
    12. Telis

      Telis Member Hall of Fame

      Location:
      Calgary
      Tinnitus Since:
      11/2013
      I can't believe how many people can't feel the sound? I agree this is by far the worst part of loud tinnitus. For me, some of the shrill loud sounds bouncing around are felt in the ear and in the brain. It's as if I can feel the hyperactivity lighting up in the different areas.

      Also, my ear drums seem to tighten in response to the loud beeps and screeching that the tinnitus produces. It's not just a sound for me personally.
       
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    13. noisebox
      Loved

      noisebox Member

      Location:
      Yorkshire, UK
      Tinnitus Since:
      04/2012
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      West End show. Came back 2015 vitamin D overdose prescribed
      To some they may be sounds to others they are distress making signals.
      Recent research shows that those who do not suffer distress with T process sound in their frontal lobes, wheres those of us who are distressed by T process sound in our emotional centres. This has been proved on MRI scans.
       
    14. noisebox
      Loved

      noisebox Member

      Location:
      Yorkshire, UK
      Tinnitus Since:
      04/2012
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      West End show. Came back 2015 vitamin D overdose prescribed
      I am so glad you changed your picture from the dog. Mixed together with your understandable angry words made me scared to comment on your posts.

      However since you wrote so eloquently last week about your suffering you have been on my mind a lot.
      You say you fight everyday, especially pushing the noise boundaries, I did that for 6 months with my medical induced T as I have already said.

      I wanted to ask would you give my method a try? Which I adopted 7 months ago, briefly gentle sound exposure, reduce stress, relaxation, minfulness, cleansing foods. I do believe it can help. especially as they know T is made worse by stress and obviously T is stressful. You have nothing to lose and all my ideas are non toxic.

      I saw a programme this week about people trying to get into work with disabilities, 2 guys had tourettes, both were sent to see an eminent neuro who knew that their ticks were worse in times of stress and under occupation, one guys ticks had come on after a sudden death, yet he had been normal and working over 30 years. When he was calm talking photographs his ticks stopped, the other found a role, actually tree felling and while working his ticks stopped.

      I knew immediately this principle could work for us too. Especially as medical induced T is stressful and anxiety creating.
       
    15. steffievdboom

      steffievdboom Member

      Never knew this! But How would habituation be explaned then? Does the process move?
       
    16. noisebox
      Loved

      noisebox Member

      Location:
      Yorkshire, UK
      Tinnitus Since:
      04/2012
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      West End show. Came back 2015 vitamin D overdose prescribed
      I think the findings are recent. I wonder if the reason most of us are still here is because we process sound differently we mostly don't habituate.
       
    17. PaulBe

      PaulBe Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Cairns
      Tinnitus Since:
      11/2013
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Probably sound, though never proven
      I did like the dog.
       
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    18. PaulBe

      PaulBe Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Cairns
      Tinnitus Since:
      11/2013
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Probably sound, though never proven
      Objectively its proof of a variant disease process. It may be though that habituation could still work, but (costs be damned) it efficacy could also theoretically be measured. It may be that those of us who have more emotional processing are those for whom there is a powerful perception of loss and fear accompanying the arrival of the disease.
       
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    19. RaZaH
      Not amused

      RaZaH Member Benefactor Team Tech

      Location:
      Reykjavík, Iceland
      Tinnitus Since:
      2012/04
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Benzo + loud noise
      Indeed, in fact my good days are when I can "only" hear it and not feel it.
      For me its literally 90% a sensation 10% sound.
      Maybe thats a perception thing or something , dunno , sure feels like a sensation rather then a sound.
       
    20. Tweaker
      Sad

      Tweaker Member Benefactor

      Location:
      UK
      Tinnitus Since:
      05/2010
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Noise exposure
      It may just be sounds but for me, not ever being able to switch off such a horrible concoction of high pitches is what makes it so difficult.
       
    21. squeek

      squeek Member

      Location:
      Australia
      Tinnitus Since:
      2009
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Noise impact/maybe seaborn
      What many people fail to appreciate that there are many variations of tinnitus and many levels of intensity. So people are going to dismiss the issue as 'just sounds'.

      A good analogue is running a rusty nail down a blackboard. Everybody hates that noise. That's one way to express the intensity and aggressiveness of the sound we hear.
       
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    22. valeri

      valeri Member Benefactor Team Awareness

      Location:
      Australia
      Tinnitus Since:
      09/2011
      Damn emotional centres! I want more of a frontal lobe!
       
    23. PaulBe

      PaulBe Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Cairns
      Tinnitus Since:
      11/2013
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Probably sound, though never proven
      That's my life too.
       

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