To put it mildly, I am struggling a lot these days. One thing that has me freaked is that I haven't come across a single case of hyperacusis that resembles my combination of presentation (bilateral, 99% likelihood of autoimmune), severity (progressing to the point where I wear earplugs and earmuffs and don't move all day).
I haven't found one success story that comes close to covering my problem. My doctors have never seen this either. I guess I'm sort of wondering what everyone's opinion is on the lack of success stories.
I'm thinking out loud here, but given how traumatic this is, if I were to recover, I see it going one of two ways.
1) Writing a detailed success story, knowing how rough this is and how important inspiration is. The goal would be to directly prevent suicide.
2) Moving on, too traumatic to talk about. Too traumatic to put my (actual) name next to online. Too afraid of jinxing it.
Does anyone have any ideas about this question? I sometimes think it's selfish to go through something this rare and keep it to yourself. At the same rate, I may just do that. I don't know because I'm not there yet.
First of all, I hope you recover as soon as possible. My hyperacusis is pretty old as well, and I lost hope to recover in the sense of regaining my sense of hearing as it was pre-hyperacusis. I am losing hearing progressively. It's pretty scary, as this is already having an impact in my work and personal life.
Pre-hyperacusis, apparently I had amazing hearing, although I never noticed. How can you know your hearing is so good? I think no one gives it a second thought, we just take it for granted.
To be honest I have lost hope about a recovery. Periodically and no matter how much I protect or how careful I am, I suffer a setback and my hearing deteriorates (I lose hearing, my tinnitus fluctuates etc). Hyperacusis, meaning jumping at a little sound, is pretty much gone for low and medium sounds, and this is a source of stress that got better.
However, the stress derived from not hearing well, not understanding what others say, straining to hear TV, missing words of speech in noise etc has substituted the stress from hyperacusis. The reactions to setbacks, the set of symptoms, pain, headaches, are more or less the same than when hyperacusis started. My view of my particular problem is this is degenerative.
There is also the psychological stress of anticipating losing a job, or losing friends because it is hard to hang out with them, or just becoming totally isolated due to hearing loss getting worse. That said, this is nothing compared to the extreme stress from severe hyperacusis. It is a different kind of stress, chronic as well, but milder, and more rational, about financial issues etc... and this changed because I thought, "if I have to lose my hearing so be it, but I still have to try to live a little, to do things, to keep being motivated, to travel within my possibilities etc"
Like you, I have been to countless doctors, and they said my case is very rare, due to fluctuating hearing, and also because my audiogram is not so bad.. mild hearing loss, maybe already moderate hearing loss in high frequencies, but the feeling I have about not understading TV, missing words, having a hard time listening in noise, is rare with that audiogram.
- Now I watch TV with subtitles, and when hyperacusis was at its worst I couldn't set it at minimum volume.
- I spent years without putting a phone near my ear. I used the cellphone rarely and set on speaker, at minimum volume and placed a bit far from me, always at home, never outside, in noise, where I would have my ears plugged. Now I can put the phone in my ear (years to be able to do this!).
I was never an extrovert, but I have become more isolated. I have a daily routine, pretty nice, with activities like going to the beach, watching a film, cooking.. I am not so bothered anymore about kitchen sounds that killed my ears. I needed to use earmuffs just to unpack my grocery shopping, and put it on the fridge, or to turn on kitchen appliances that beep. Now I can manage better, although I still use hearing protection for some beeps that have a nastier edge (higher pitch and kind of distorted sound, very annoying).
Things I did to take stress off me: move to another home, to a seaside town, simplify my life, try to enjoy the little things in life, save money, try to be financially solid (I have no debt and I own property) etc