Is Positivity Important?

Discussion in 'Support' started by Michael Leigh, Aug 4, 2017.

    1. Michael Leigh

      Michael Leigh Member Benefactor Hall of Fame

      Location:
      Brighton, UK
      Tinnitus Since:
      April /1996
      Is positivity important?

      Tinnitus is a complex condition that comes in many forms and intensities and no two people experience it the same. If hyperacausis is present it can cause additional problems depending on how severe it is? I believe if one is able to adopt a positive mindset towards tinnitus and life, they will have the most essential requirement to help them through the habituation process and beyond. This will help to keep negativity at bay even in the downtimes should they arrive.

      Negativity and the belief that nothing can be done for tinnitus can start to take its effect as early as going to Dr. Google or to be told by a GP: “It’s tinnitus, nothing can be done you have to learn to live with it”. It is unfortunate that someone who’s probably very stressed and anxious to have his or her worst fears confirmed by a healthcare professional that should know better. This is negative counselling and it shouldn’t be done.

      Some people will visit a tinnitus forum in an attempt to allay any fears and prove to themselves what they have been told or read about it is wrong, by listening to people that have the condition and hopefully they will be told it does get better and it is curable. The views expressed at forums are often mixed and vary quite a lot. By now a person’s stress level might have increased or decreased Depending on the information they receive either by direct answer to a question or reading members posts. This can induce calm and a feeling of relief, or do the complete opposite and make them feel worse.

      I believe visiting a forum regularly can be helpful for some. The feeling of camaraderie that exists between like-minded people can be reassuring especially when family and friends don’t understand which is often the case. However, it isn’t without its drawbacks. Such a community is open to all and sundry, and thus positive and negative thinking people. Therefore, I believe it is important to try and focus on positivity. Seek advice from members that have had tinnitus for a while and habituated. This is not to say that advice from newbies shouldn’t be sought too. I have read posts from people just a few months in with tinnitus, and been taken aback by the maturity, depth and understanding that they bring and makes a veteran like me smile in approval.

      The thing to try and avoid is negative reinforcement because tinnitus and hyperacusis can be stressful conditions all by themselves without adding to them. Some people are sensitive to sound and take it upon themselves to be wearing: foam earplugs, noise reducing plugs or earmuffs at every opportunity. I have seen what this overuse can do to some people. It can instill fear and if one isn't careful phonophobia. A fear of sound.

      Treating tinnitus and hyperacusis takes time usually many months and should be backed up with positive thinking. Positivity reinforces the belief not to be fearful of tinnitus and hyperacusis. Overuse of hearing protection sadly reinforces negativity and fear. It is for this reason I regularly advise people to read the positive articles that I have written on tinnitus and they are in my “started threads”. They are to be treated as therapy and are a form of counselling and should be read often to reinforce "positive thinking". Without a positive attitude negativity is allowed to get hold and can become overwhelming. I also advise people to read the success stories written by members on the "positivity thread" and there are many. Again, this reinforces positive thinking. One has to work at this if they want to improve and get better.

      Michael

      PS: Life is problematic and with a condition like tinnitus at times it can be overwhelming. This can happen in the early stages of onset but usually improves with time. There is nothing wrong with feeling down and occasionally negative, just try not to make it become all consuming. Always talk to your doctor if you feel your situation is becoming too much.
       
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    2. Bobbie7
      Wishful

      Bobbie7 Member Benefactor

      Location:
      United States
      Tinnitus Since:
      04/2015
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Extreme stress, sinus infection
      @Michael Leigh - An excellent post, expressed with knowledge, truth, wisdom and hope.
       
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    3. Raphael7713
      Alone

      Raphael7713 Member

      Location:
      Stockholm, Sweden.
      Tinnitus Since:
      January 14, 2017.
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Not sure
      Of course it is. I think many tinnitus sufferers, newbies especially, locks themselves into this negative state of mind which makes their situation a lot worse. When you reach the point where you do not care and see things from the bright side, it's almost as you get "cured" in a way.
       
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    4. fishbone
      Shitfaced

      fishbone Member Hall of Fame

      Tinnitus Since:
      1988
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      loud noise and very bad sickness
      It's all about positivity. Tinnitus is a brutal ordeal and it is natural for one to get all down and out. Being positive and moving forward is the only option I see. It takes effort and lots of self love and patience to be positive, when you are hearing a LOUD/high pitched/non-maskable electric generator 2 4 7.

      I have been through the school of hard knocks all my life, so as HORRIBLE and super loud this tinnitus is in both ears, it won't keep me from living my life, that's for sure.

      It's about reaching deep into yourself and just living your life! It's not easy, but all CAN do this....

      PS- I am trying to listen to an audio file for educational purposes and the tinnitus is so LOUD and my hearing is garbage, but i still do it while 90% would give up.... Like i said before, it's about the mentality one has and how motivated they are......
       
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    5. Bill Bauer
      No Mood

      Bill Bauer Member Hall of Fame

      Tinnitus Since:
      February, 2017
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Acoustic Trauma
      Michael, haven't you seen what NOT doing the above Can do to Some people?! I am sure you had seen countless threads where people report not protecting their ears (and this includes going to loud places (e.g., pubs where music is playing) while wearing earplugs, and experiencing horrific (and sometimes permanent) spikes. It seems to me that you ought to mention these cases in your detailed posts. You don't want to encourage someone to start behaving in such a way, as to share the unenviable fate of those people who give themselves a secondary acoustic trauma, right?!
       
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      Michael Leigh

      Michael Leigh Member Benefactor Hall of Fame

      Location:
      Brighton, UK
      Tinnitus Since:
      April /1996
      Thank you for your kind comments @Bobbie7 If I may say so. Your posts bring: Peace, elegance and a level of sophistication to grace any forum and help soothe a troubled mind. I hope you keep visiting as this place is much better with you here. @Raphael7713 I marvel at some of your posts because you give an insight into tinnitus that’s fresh and new and it’s a pleasure to see. Please keep up the splendid work. @fishbone You explain tinnitus just like it is, and equip a person with the necessary tools not to be afraid of tinnitus, but to embrace it with positivity and determination. Your steadfastness and never to give up, is an inspiration to all of us. Please keep up the great work it is much appreciated.

      I am talking about the overuse of hearing protection not to never use it. Everything has to be kept in balance. When I read a post and a member says: Today I heard a door slam, or a police siren and now I'm worried. Should I ask my GP for medication just in case my tinnitus spikes? This is unhealthy behaviour in my opinion and instills unnecessary fear in the person and to those that read it that are new to tinnitus and not quite sure what to do.

      Michael
       
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    7. Bill Bauer
      No Mood

      Bill Bauer Member Hall of Fame

      Tinnitus Since:
      February, 2017
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Acoustic Trauma
      I mostly agree with you, Michael. Thank you for the clarification.
      The above is normally "I heard a door slam/police siren AND NOW MY T IS much LOUDER/I have ear fullness". This is when a person would often begin panicking, but one can't blame them.
       
    8. Bobbie7
      Wishful

      Bobbie7 Member Benefactor

      Location:
      United States
      Tinnitus Since:
      04/2015
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Extreme stress, sinus infection
      ~~and thank you @Michael Leigh for your kind remarks which are very much appreciated. Having experienced a wide range of situations/emotions/traumas in my 72 years as well as being a tinnitus sufferer I can lend myself to those who are suffering and my desire is to give understanding, support and impart hope as I would wish to have from others when I am in need.

      I am pleased to be a member of this wonderful forum and to know you and the many other caring, helpful and empathic people who are truly shining stars.

      Best wishes,
      Barbara
       
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    9. Julia Urrutia

      Julia Urrutia Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      5/2014
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Unknown. Head injury or autoimmune problems
      I am so glad I found this forum. I thank God that sleep takes me away from thinking about my tinnitus. I appreciate everyone's good will.
       
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    10. threefirefour
      Rebellious

      threefirefour Member Benefactor Hall of Fame

      Location:
      California
      Tinnitus Since:
      5/15/16
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      140dB B R U H moment
      If it helps you can't hear tinnitus in your sleep. Only the memory of the sound.
       
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      Michael Leigh

      Michael Leigh Member Benefactor Hall of Fame

      Location:
      Brighton, UK
      Tinnitus Since:
      April /1996
      Hi @Julia Urrutia
      If you are not using sound enrichment at night then please give it a try.
      Michael
       
    12. Greg Sacramento

      Greg Sacramento Member Benefactor Hall of Fame

      Tinnitus Since:
      April 2011
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      syringing and now somatic T dental work
      @Michael Leigh Leigh Much what you say is a good read and helpful for many. There are some with T & H where life is difficult from other aliments.

      Having a loud pitch complicated by having severe dental/mouth problems or having a disease along with T isn't easy. Having tinnitus alone is a whole different classification from those having tinnitus with other medical complications.

      When one has somatic T where their head may light up with an electrical storm at night, along with maybe neck pain, jaw pain, mouth pain, adopting is difficult. Having Meniere's is not easy and sometimes there is neck, dental concerns along with that.

      There are many as often mentioned that come and go from this board because they are able to adjust. I was one after I received T the first time - It was loud, but not a severe high pitch. It's a whole different ballgame for me now.

      Most of the time, I can barely post. Many with severe T can't post or if they did post, they have stopped posting. In California there are rundown nursing homes where there's many older people with severe tinnitus. I have been to some of these nursing homes and it's bothersome.

      Sometimes a whole team of caring specialists is needed. Getting that assistance due to practice time limitations can be a problem. Being able to travel distances for some sufferers without personnel assistance is a problem. Audiologists will spend a great deal of time with a patient and are often able to make valued assessments.

      I come to this board to research my somatic tinnitus and to see what others have tried for treatment. I also try to help others with somatic tinnitus as you do remarkably well with hearing and hyperacusis aliments.
       
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      Michael Leigh

      Michael Leigh Member Benefactor Hall of Fame

      Location:
      Brighton, UK
      Tinnitus Since:
      April /1996
      @Greg Sacramento
      Thank youfor your kind comments. You are correct, tinnitus and hyperacusis are make worse by other conditions. Keep up the good work helping people

      All the best
      Michael
       
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