Self-Blame for Not Being Able to Cope Better

Discussion in 'Support' started by SeekIngAlpha, Sep 29, 2015.

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    1. SeekIngAlpha

      SeekIngAlpha Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2003
      I am now dealing with what I can only describe as a depressed state after remission from tinnitus. I did it with meditation and embraced the silence but now that the noise is all but gone. I look at how not being able to handle the tinnitus messed up my life. Not sure how to live with silence after 11 years of tinnitus.
       
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    2. RaZaH
      Not amused

      RaZaH Member Benefactor Team Tech

      Location:
      Reykjavík, Iceland
      Tinnitus Since:
      2012/04
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Benzo + loud noise
      wow...I dont know what to say ...except. congratulations on not having t.
      I do however understand what you mean , I have no advice though .
      Interesting .
       
    3. glynis-harbron
      Feminine

      glynis-harbron Member Benefactor Hall of Fame Ambassador Team Awareness Team Research

      Location:
      England, Stoke-on-Trent
      Tinnitus Since:
      2004
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Meniere's Disease
      Hi ,first of all well done for coping so far and great to hear silence again.
      Take one day as it comes and go at your own pace and place no pressure on yourself.
      Build up your social skills and confidence and be really happy you have come so far ....lots of love glynis
       
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    4. billie48
      Sunshine

      billie48 Member Benefactor Hall of Fame Ambassador Team Research

      Location:
      Vancouver, Canada
      Tinnitus Since:
      03/2009
      Congrats to your finding silence again after 11 years. Perhaps you should write a more detailed success story to share your insights on how to live with T and beat it. Many newbies will benefit from reading your story.

      Regarding the new found silence, it is like those folks in East Germany. After the East reunited with the West, the folks from the East found it hard to live with so much freedom. They were so used to pre-planned and controlled life from the communist party, where they didn't have to face the task of making so many personal choices or decisions daily, that they simply found it a bit overwhelmed about what to do with making choices for themselves in a free society as West Germany.
       
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    5. Robb09
      Alienated

      Robb09 Member

      Location:
      Canada
      Tinnitus Since:
      3/2015
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      buzzing shaver/laptop fan whine/pellet gun/music/caff/wax/ eardrum red
      It went away completely after those years? Im quite happy for you, what did you get T from?
       
    6. RaZaH
      Not amused

      RaZaH Member Benefactor Team Tech

      Location:
      Reykjavík, Iceland
      Tinnitus Since:
      2012/04
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Benzo + loud noise
      Yes, please tell us how we get to the stage of post T depression :)
      Not to make light of your situation , I do get it.
       
    7. valeri

      valeri Member Benefactor Team Awareness

      Location:
      Australia
      Tinnitus Since:
      09/2011
      I wish that's my problem:(
       
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    8. Telis

      Telis Member Hall of Fame

      Location:
      Calgary
      Tinnitus Since:
      11/2013
      What the??? Don't you feel like you have a new lease on life? I was pretty damn happy prior to T, I don't think anything could get me down if my T went away.
       
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    9. suera

      suera Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      02/2010
      Well that sounds like a pretty good problem to me. Enjoy!
       
    10. Cheza
      Wishful

      Cheza Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Oregon
      Tinnitus Since:
      04/2014
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Barking dogs/stress
      People mess up their lives because they can't handle terrible problems, tinnitus being one of those problems. Now that you have your silence back, thank your lucky stars.

      What level was your T? Mild, moderate, or severe?
       
    11. ady

      ady Member

      I would literally chop my legs off if I got rid of tinnitus. Be happy!
       
    12. Robb09
      Alienated

      Robb09 Member

      Location:
      Canada
      Tinnitus Since:
      3/2015
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      buzzing shaver/laptop fan whine/pellet gun/music/caff/wax/ eardrum red
      Don't chop it lol, it would give you the similar problem, the phantom pain, instead of phantom sounds.
       
    13. Hinnie8
      Blah

      Hinnie8 Member

      Location:
      Perth, Australia
      Tinnitus Since:
      11/2014
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Ear Infection
      Wow interesting story. I understand what you mean. I've always thought that if I woke up without tinnitus tomorrow that I'd still be struggling with depression, because every other part of your life becomes affected by it... and that takes time to improve. I can imagine it being overwhelming at first but consider yourself lucky! Maybe counselling could help so you can get your life back on track?

      Also I'm interested to hear how your tinnitus went away!?!
       
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    14. SeekIngAlpha

      SeekIngAlpha Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2003
      @billie48 Yes ...you are exactly right about the feedom part..not being able to handle being set free from prison. I am very impressed that you understand. I spoke with someone about it and they thought that as well. Thanks for being kind and understanding about how tough it is.
       
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    15. SeekIngAlpha

      SeekIngAlpha Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2003
      Tinnitus was very loud ...like a rumbling every day.
       
    16. noisebox
      Loved

      noisebox Member

      Location:
      Yorkshire, UK
      Tinnitus Since:
      04/2012
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      West End show. Came back 2015 vitamin D overdose prescribed
      Do tell us more what you did, please.
      I do understand you though, I have my T back after a time of stress consequently I am depressed now, and if my T has a quiet day, I am pretty scared. I don't know who I am any more it is my identity as it controls my life. Plus I have the fear that at any minute it will smack me in the face again.
       
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