Are People Who Get Tinnitus Generally Unhappy About Their Life?

Discussion in 'Support' started by Paromita, Jul 24, 2016.

tinnitus forum
    1. Paromita
      Cool

      Paromita Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      April 2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Not sure, maybe dental and facial nerve
      Hello,

      Just wondering if most of you here who are facing Tinnitus (specially long term) are generally unhappy or complaining kind if people about life...?

      Please dont get offended, I am time and again reminded that I am a complaining kind of person who is constantly unhappy about something or the other and thus resulted in Tinnitus in my ear...

      so wondering if T comes to people who are generally more depressive or angry or unsatisfied with their life ?

      Thanks, Mita
       
      • Like Like x 1
    2. Path Maker

      Path Maker Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      12/2015
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      acoustic
      I am full of joy. I have and have had a hard life in many respects but I've always been outgoing, upbeat, and handle things well. I do have that kind of personality that is always going/always thinking/"on" and by nature, I am acutely tuned into things and notice every little detail/am environmentally sensitive. And that's the scoop. :)
       
      • Like Like x 1
      • Optimistic Optimistic x 1
    3. The Red Viper
      Angry

      The Red Viper Member Team Research

      Location:
      US
      Tinnitus Since:
      March 15, 2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Current Theory: Leftover infection ETD + neck muscle injury
      Not at all. Honestly I think the whole anxiety/stress thing is a giant cop out.
       
      • Agree Agree x 1
      • Optimistic Optimistic x 1
    4. Paromita
      Cool

      Paromita Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      April 2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Not sure, maybe dental and facial nerve
      @Path Maker @The Red Viper

      Thanks guys, have been feeling really down from last two days. Spoke to my family in India and some of them are going on a vacation. How I wish I would take it easy and travel a bit myself. But things are not easy...
      my partner has been unemployed for 8 years now, so I have been solely working and somehow managing to survive...
      last year my elder one graduated and took a good job, but on the first instance she packed her bags and left to live her "happy" life....leaving us behind or as much as any offer to help.
      To make things worse, my younger daughter, whom I love so so much came down with LPR, silent reflux. She cant eat stuff, and had become a different person...I feel fear whenever I look in her face.

      Some days are really hard....and I dont see much point in living or to life. Its hard to see the blue sky and feel happy.
      All my dreams about any future have died. Life was about work before but with this Tinnitus, its uncertain and I have lost all interest in my work as well. God seems to be shutting all doors on my face, not sure what I did.

      When I talk about this to my partner, he gets upset at times and says I am a all gloom and doom person.

      But I can't see much in the future to be honest.....maybe its my depression...feeling quite blue today...

      :cry:
       
    5. Vaba
      Shitfaced

      Vaba Member

      Location:
      New New York
      Tinnitus Since:
      Unknown
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Unknown. Gradual, Progressive
      I was slightly unhappy before, I developed large floaters as a child and I was excluded a little socially, so I took a very low dose of antidepressants.

      I was fine for years, but one day I suddenly developed "normal," single-tone buzz T that you can hear ONLY in a quiet room. Then, I woke up one day and my left ear felt pressurized and full, and my right ear makes this demonic whistle that is both low and high pitched constantly.

      Now, with gradually progressing vitreous degeneration and unexplained T, I can say I'm pretty unhappy (completely disabled)
       
      • Hug Hug x 2
    6. glynis-harbron
      Feminine

      glynis-harbron Member Benefactor Hall of Fame Ambassador Team Awareness Team Research

      Location:
      England, Stoke-on-Trent
      Tinnitus Since:
      2004
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Meniere's Disease
      Hi Mita,
      I'm quite a bubbly person and positive but I do have to push hard during down times with health issues.
      I'm very blessed with a wonderful family and friends.....lots of love glynis
       
      • Hug Hug x 2
    7. Mario martz
      Creative

      Mario martz Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      02/2016
      Well i was very depressed and in a bad place when tinnitus first appeared,
      but i have always been a very positive and easy going person.
      now 5 months after onset, i can say im 75% back to normal :)
      just like you said "All my dreams about any future have died", i totally feel the same way about it.
      my dreams involve music, touring, etc.. and those are the things i need to step away, and also im a very social person,
      you can imagine how difficult has been to avoid parties and clubs, and how hard is to turned down invitations from all my friends...
      but
      life is so much bigger than we think, right now im focusing in art wich is something i love the most, im making more money at my job, going to new quiet places with my friends, planning a road trip, taking care of my pet, and enjoying my family, im not saying it has been easy, but you need to put all your heart to feel good again, understanding that this is the new normal is hard, but not impossible.
      there will always be bad days, but the good days makes everything so much worth it.
      im not gonna stop being the funny, social, and creative person i have always been just because of this.

      hang in there Paromita!
       
      • Like Like x 2
      • Hug Hug x 1
    8. Mentos

      Mentos Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      03/2015
      Hi Mita,
      Before T I was never a complaining kind of person, always very positive, full of energy and ready for challenges in my life. Well, T turned that upside down, even though it's mild. I'm depressed and all the energy and positive attitude I used to have is consumed by managing T. I would say I manage T in a way that it does not interfere with daily activities, but I'm not a happy and carefree person I used to be.
       
      • Agree Agree x 3
      • Hug Hug x 1
    9. Paromita
      Cool

      Paromita Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      April 2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Not sure, maybe dental and facial nerve
      Hi Mario, Thanks, I think what happened to my daughter was like a double dip of bad luck....
      Hi Glynis,

      Thanks, yes are very very cheerful, one can sense it through your communication though I think life has not been fair to you.....but I guess thats what happens to many of us....life is not fair to us...it does not matter whether we are good or bad or ethical or not ethical....sometimes I wonder if God is there....seems to be like hes blind.

      But you spread lot of cheer and I see all your messages in all the threads and its a blessing to have you with us...

      Lots of love, Mita
       
      • Hug Hug x 1
    10. bill 112
      Studious

      bill 112 Member

      Location:
      Republic Of Ireland
      Tinnitus Since:
      02/2012
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Noise exposure
      When I first got T I got through it and came out the other side a happier stronger person.

      It then worsened in 2012 for about 6 months and again I got through it full of happiness and joy and a strong will to live a happy life.

      Then the Impulse noise happened in 2014 giving me slightly louder T for about 6 months but also H that resolved about 80% within a year or so.


      But then yet again I was screwed over by noise,not even loud noise not even to me and I had H!

      I'm in agony all day everyday and for someone so in love with life regardless of all the shit I had been through I can say that I look forward to death now,I look at it as an escape as there's nothing really here for me now only pain and suffering.The only thing however that keeps me alive is hope,the hope that Stemcells can treat me enough to have a nice quality of life again,if that hope dies I die with it.

      It's sad but that's my honest feelings at this point,I don't fear death,I embrace it.
       
      • Optimistic Optimistic x 1
    11. GregCA
      Crappy

      GregCA Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      03/2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Otosclerosis
      The answer is no.
       
      • Agree Agree x 3
    12. Dominic1955
      Depressed

      Dominic1955 Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Waverly, Pennsylvania
      Tinnitus Since:
      4/2/2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Idiopathic hearing loss
      I never had anxiety or depression till my hearing loss withT H, lucky my anxiety stopped after 6 weeks! My T is just as loud but it' s annoying but it's not causing anxiety
       
      • Hug Hug x 1
    13. Path Maker

      Path Maker Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      12/2015
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      acoustic
      I agree - I believe that it's a combination of factors (acoustic, physiological, etc.) that are often discussed here, as well as possibly a genetic/endogenous predisposition toward having those factors manifest as tinnitus.

      I also do believe that in addition to any inborn predisposition, that yes, being in a state of aggravated stress can add to the likelihood that some incidents "trip the lever" and allow tinnitus to take hold, in certain cases. A body that is holding a continued state of stress IS in a deleterious physiological state which could translate to being more susceptible.

      In everyday life, this can be seen when you are able to either resist or not resist a cold virus you've been exposed to, based on whether you've had good or bad sleep, diet, stressful emotions, etc. Sometimes you "catch" the cold and sometimes it bounces right off you.

      I will say that my experience of the beginning of tinnitus "just happened" ??? to land right smack in the midst of the most emotionally stressful time of my entire life. There was acoustic trauma that set it off, though. Whether these were coincidental or whether my state was ripe for "catching" the tinnitus, who knows?

      But as to the main question posed by this thread, I don't think that it only hits people who are unhappy with life. Not in my case, anyway. I'm a deep appreciator of life, however it happens.
       
      • Agree Agree x 2
    14. Telis

      Telis Member Hall of Fame

      Location:
      Calgary
      Tinnitus Since:
      11/2013
      No. I was beyond happy prior to this, now I'm suffering.
       
      • Hug Hug x 4
      • Agree Agree x 2
      • Like Like x 1
      • Helpful Helpful x 1
    15. Alue

      Alue Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      01/2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Acoustic Trauma
      I wasn't happy before I got tinnitus, but I wasn't really depressed either. I have other permanent things I have to deal with every day that affect my quality of life, some of them were caused by others. I just got to the point were I was numb but comfortable. Not happy, but not really suffering. This loud tinnitus and H has taken what little I had left that I could enjoy. I never thought some idiot could take peace and quiet away from me permanently. I just can't get over that and how I was treated after my injury, not when I have a constant screaming reminder 24/7.

      You may have mentioned this before, but what was the impulse noise that gave you H?

      I hear you with looking forward to death. I'm alone, live alone and that's not going to change. I don't get any enjoyment out of life, that was true before tinnitus as I had anhedonia, now it's just suffering every day. Only thing keeping me here is my family mostly my parents, but how much must someone endure just so they don't cause pain to others?
       
      • Hug Hug x 1
    16. jeannie
      Stressed

      jeannie Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2013
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Noise-induced, Ear Infection, Medication... Who knows?
      I have suffered with depression,anxiety,panic attacks since I was 16 .was under alot of stress right before I got tinnitus,a also had a cosmetic procedure right before tinnitus and worked in a factory for 23 years,before tinnitus started,also had a ear infection..I wore hearing protection at work but who knows what caused mine?? I wasn't sad before tinnitus started.a after I got it everything got worse,anxiey,depression,panic attacks...had to quit job...so I just try to get through each day now.
       
      • Like Like x 1
      • Hug Hug x 1
    17. linearb
      Psychedelic

      linearb Member Hall of Fame

      Location:
      East Coast USA
      Tinnitus Since:
      1998
      I think that a tendency towards anxiety and or depression is probably correlated with higher tinnitus distress for obvious reasons, but not correlated with overall tinnitus risk.
       
      • Like Like x 1
      • Hug Hug x 1
    18. Nick Pyzik
      Depressed

      Nick Pyzik Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      6/23/15
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Listening to in-ear headphones & playing in a band
      I'm with you there Bill. Except for the "looking forward to death part". You have to be smart enough to not even think about wanting to end your life, no matter how difficult things become. A reward is always at the end of a strenuous journey. Life is a gift.
       
    19. Cityjohn
      Studious

      Cityjohn Member Team Research

      Location:
      Amsterdam
      Tinnitus Since:
      5:10 PM 03/02/2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Food poisoning.
      Being handicapped has made me unhappy, not so much about my life as it has made me unhappy and disgruntled about the god damn state this planet is in and food they serve at a bloody university. If you can't eat safely in a place that's filled with posters with shit like "A place where people think", then where can you eat? Well, at my house for sure because I know how buy safe food and cook a damn meal.

      I had a fellow research colleague on a bio mechanical project which we did using weights. Every evening he would rush home to eat and thus run away from responsibilities at the lab every day's end. He kept putting off to the next time and in the end even lied to me that another group that his friend was in needed the weights so that he wouldn't have to help me bring them back to the gym next door... I thought he was a complete amateur sociopath unable to recognize a more experienced one but I guess with a doctor as a father he was just being smart about where he was eating ;) The cheeky bastard..

      In general I'm very cynical and hold the world in very low regard but I don't complain much. I have always been unsatisfied with my life which I admit is a bit of luxury problem at this time since I live in one of the most advanced countries on the planet enjoying the best education and having an abundance of iPads, Canon's, cheap Chinese import goods, girls, friends, etc. But then again I've always thought that satisfaction would mean I saw no way to improve in my situation and that has never been the case.

      There is a research showing that stress is very damaging to the brain overall including the auditory system. Specifically it can greatly weaken the body's ability to clean up excess glutamate thus leaving people with a much lower threshold of permanent hearing damage.

      These are some studies touching on the issue;
      http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3645314/
      http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3302010/
      http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/0006899394916225
       
      • Like Like x 2
      • Agree Agree x 2
      • Hug Hug x 1
    20. Marlino
      Cowboy

      Marlino Member Team Research

      Location:
      Germany
      Tinnitus Since:
      02/2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      unknown
      The title question is complete bs!

      Why should it be so? Actually everybody is unhappy about something and only after getting T you will give it more weight.

      To establish a connection between stress, unhappyness and other poorly defined reasons and T is very misleading and giving external people (e.g. M.D.s) arguments for trivializing it.
       
      • Winner Winner x 1
    21. dudeguywithstuff

      dudeguywithstuff Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      04/16
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      anxiety
      As Tinnitus Talk contributor Dr. Hubbard will tell you, 98% of people will habituate to their tinnitus.

      https://www.tinnitustalk.com/threads/dealing-with-guilt-and-shame-of-tinnitus.16800/

      You can choose to focus on the 2% of people who don't and most likely populate this forum. Much as I sympathize with those of you posting here, it is of absolutely no comfort to the OP and is statistically unlikely to become the reality of the OP.

      Tinnitus is YOUR OWN experience, not the experience of others who have suffered the worst of it.
       
      • Hug Hug x 1
    22. GregCA
      Crappy

      GregCA Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      03/2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Otosclerosis
      Citation needed.
      No, do not cite Dr Hubbard, cite the study that provides this statistic. "Lies, damned lies, and statistics"

      I'm very skeptical about it because ATA provides these stats: 50M Americans experience T, 20M struggle with burdensome T, and 2M have extreme and debilitating T.

      No matter how I slice the numbers, I don't get to 98% habituating to their T. Maybe there is another source more trustworthy than ATA?

      Now, it could look like, from the perspective of a doctor, that a patient is habituating, maybe because s/he is not coming back, but we know very well in this forum that patients often given up on going to see doctors.
       
      • Agree Agree x 4
      • Like Like x 1
    23. dudeguywithstuff

      dudeguywithstuff Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      04/16
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      anxiety
      You're assuming that the 20 million with burdensome tinnitus never go on to habituate to their tinnitus. Or acknowledge that people may still consider it something to "deal with" but may do so significantly better than they did when they first got the condition.

      I could say a lot here. But I think the most important thing I can say is that when you look for reasons to keep yourself miserable and validate how bad you feel, don't be surprised when you find no progress towards normalcy.
       
      • Hug Hug x 1
    24. GregCA
      Crappy

      GregCA Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      03/2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Otosclerosis
      Nope, that's not what I'm assuming at all.
      If "dealing better" is equivalent to "habituating" for you, it may explain why you are aligned with the 98% figure.

      Perhaps, but I don't really see how that supports the 98% claim... which is what I was questioning. No need to get defensive: questioning is healthy. If not we'd still be thinking the earth is flat...
      I'd think you'd be interested in knowing if this number has any truth to it yourself.
       
      • Agree Agree x 2
      • Like Like x 1
    25. PaulBe

      PaulBe Member Benefactor

      Location:
      Cairns
      Tinnitus Since:
      11/2013
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Probably sound, though never proven
      I wonder how much of this 98% includes those who give up seeking help and retreat from life generally. Its like unemployment in the US. If you give up looking they stop counting you and thus their stats look great, reality thus avoided.
       
      • Agree Agree x 2
    26. GregCA
      Crappy

      GregCA Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      03/2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Otosclerosis
      My guess is that this number has no basis on any statistical study at all, so I'm not inclined to try to understand how that number came about. I'd love to be wrong though.
       
      • Like Like x 1
      • Agree Agree x 1

Share This Page

Loading...
If you have ringing ears then you've come to the right place. We are a friendly tinnitus support board, dedicated to helping you discuss and understand what tinnitus treatments may work for you.