Domestic Argument, Spike and Frustration

Discussion in 'Support' started by spikedears, Jan 20, 2018.

    1. spikedears

      spikedears Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2013
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Concert and stress
      I recently had an argument with my partner. Her frustration at the way I am letting T take over is largely behind it, in the sense that our life is different now than before I had my flare up.

      I have taken to wearing plugs and earplugs when I drive, with the slamming doors and road noise. The occlusion effect is quite bad in these, and so I tend to talk more quietly. My refusal to talk louder until the car had stopped caused a big argument.

      Phrases such as 'embarrassment', 'feel pity and regret towards you' etc flew out. There was also a moment when my parter exited the car in anger and slammed the door shut, despite knowing my issue with this.

      My question essentially is with the door slammed aggressively shut, will earmuffs (peltor ones, ironically the only protection I had on), protect against this sort of loud impact sound?

      Thanks for reading, if you got this far. Help needed!
       
    2. Bill Bauer
      No Mood

      Bill Bauer Member Hall of Fame

      Tinnitus Since:
      February, 2017
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Acoustic Trauma
      I hope you break up with her, now that she had shown her true face.
      It is a good thing that you had your muffs on. I believe that in the worst case scenario you will get a temporary (lasting at most a week) spike. You don't want to be exposed to shocks like that often, but it is inevitable for them to happen sometimes. This doesn't promote your recovery, but shouldn't end your recovery for good either.
       
    3. Michael Leigh

      Michael Leigh Member Benefactor Hall of Fame

      Location:
      Brighton, UK
      Tinnitus Since:
      April /1996
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Noise induced
      Try and not use earplugs too often as they can cause more problems on top of what you already have. Please click on the links below and read my posts.

      All the best
      Michael

      https://www.tinnitustalk.com/threads/hyperacusis-as-i-see-it.19174/

      https://www.tinnitustalk.com/threads/the-complexities-of-tinnitus-and-hyperacusis.25733/

      https://www.tinnitustalk.com/threads/tinnitus-a-personal-view.18668/
       
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    4. glynis
      Feminine

      glynis Member Benefactor Ambassador Hall of Fame

      Location:
      England,
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      2004
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      Meniere's Disease
      Im sure that if you both spend time on here together she will be better prepared to understand more about tinnitus and how others struggle at times.
      Love glynis
       
    5. Bill Bauer
      No Mood

      Bill Bauer Member Hall of Fame

      Tinnitus Since:
      February, 2017
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Acoustic Trauma
      Alternatively, you can keep doing what you have been doing (thus keeping your ears safe), and just ensure that you watch TV at the highest volume at which you can watch it for a long time and not end up with a spike. This will ensure that you won't develop H. This will also reduce the probability that your T will spike.
       
    6. Michael Leigh

      Michael Leigh Member Benefactor Hall of Fame

      Location:
      Brighton, UK
      Tinnitus Since:
      April /1996
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Noise induced
      As long as he doesn't overuse hearing protection which many people in this forum do, then I don't think he'll have any problems.
       
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    7. SilverSpiral
      Sad

      SilverSpiral Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2016
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      ACOUSTIC TRAUMA
      Sorry to hear about your experience

      If they were peltor x5a muffs you would have had amoung the best possible protection on the general consumer market, so theres really not much else you can do now.

      If you were wearing muffs, I don't think you need to worry about the door slam unless you were driving a ww2 tank or something.
       
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    8. fishbone
      Shitfaced

      fishbone Member Hall of Fame

      Tinnitus Since:
      1988
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      loud noise and very bad sickness
      As usual Michael and Glynis are spot on! Please do not overprotect your ears, tis simply trains your mind for negativity and even normal/non-harmful sounds will affect you. You don't want to build up an OCD to normal/non-harmful sounds.

      Your mind/brain is the masterpiece and the controlling mechanism, if you start training it the wrong way, it can cause hardship. I speak from experience and I know just how painful it can get, do as you please, but overprotecting is not a good thing.
       
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      spikedears

      spikedears Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2013
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Concert and stress
      Thanks guys for responding to me. The muffs seemingly did protect me!

      Thanks @fishbone I am trying to lessen the protection as I have ben wearing it constantly and my mind is in a very dark and fearful place! I wear the protection as I am not sure how I'll cope with worsening T
       
    10. Bobby B
      Fine

      Bobby B Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      11/2015
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Large caliber rifles/machine guns and loud Music/clubs
      @spikedears

      You did not explain why you had T in the first place
       
    11. Elfin
      Wishful

      Elfin Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      08/2004
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Loud concert
      @Bobby B - says it in my little profile bit. Attended a concert with heavy, heavy bass. Was near a speaker at the front for several hours. When I left my hearing was muffled and has never been the same since.
       
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    12. Bobby B
      Fine

      Bobby B Member Benefactor

      Tinnitus Since:
      11/2015
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Large caliber rifles/machine guns and loud Music/clubs
      Ok got it sorry - did not show up on the iOS version then

      Yes I would protect my ears then - you cannot fix the past but preventing future damage is key. I would sleep in another room for sure . Wearing plugs all night isn't going to cause irreversible damage but is not ideal for ear wax to flow out - it could accumulate near the ear drum and solidify
       
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      spikedears

      spikedears Member

      Tinnitus Since:
      2013
      Cause of Tinnitus:
      Concert and stress
      Thank you @Bobby B for replying and for the advice. Are you referring to my other thread with my partner coughing as soon as I had removed the earplugs?

      Would you think that this is sufficient enough to cause any damage/spike?

      In a bad state with this now. Can definitely hear that it has gotten worse, but hate protecting hearing around the house!
       

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